Stillborn Worries

Stop worrying - you need to enjoy your pregnancy. Read The Secret - "what you think about, you bring about." Think only positive, happy thoughts!

Oh, there were times I was overwhelmed with worry. I seemed to live for my doctor appointments so I could hear the baby's heartbeat or get an ultrasound. That would make me feel better for a few days and then I'd be back to worrying. I think it's very normal. And having friends who went through it makes you realize even more what can happen so you probably end up worrying more. I also felt better once I could feel the baby move. If I didn't feel her moving, I'd drink juice and lie on the couch until I felt her moving.

While I was pregnant with our first, my husband had the OUTSIDE of our house painted. I got home (was teaching too) and ran in the house, packed a bag, and we went to a hotel because I was afraid of the paint. So yeah, I worried. But, I had two very healthy babies. I also found with the second one I wasn't quite a fanatic about it.

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B..
Yes, this is normal! My first son was born stillborn in my 8th month, and all of my pregnancies that followed I was very nervous. My best advice would be to contact your doctor if you even THINK anything different is happening. Try your best not to worry because worrying gets you no where. Everything will be fine!
What school to you teach at?

Someone else said it ... but yes, welcome to the mommie world. You will never stop worrying fron here on out so much about another person! :)

This might make you feel more assured - Do you know about kick counts? 6 or more an hour is normal - anything less warrants a doctor's advice. If you don't feel the baby moving, it's worth a call to your OB and it should be said in very straight-forth language.

Best way: lie on your left side and hold still. Count the kicks (movements) until you get the desired number within the time parameters.

I found the counts were higher following a snack and a nice glass of ice water (kinda like the tricks you use before an ultrasound to get the bebe on the move). Got my own kick counts higher too!

You are almost there though. Good luck! In just days you will be moving on the next phase of mommyhood with new worries ... like eating, sleeping and talking!

B.,

I believe it is very normal. With both of my pregnancies I worried all of the time and honestly it never stops. I have found that it is OK to be concerned and careful but I try not to obsess over things that are out of my control. I do the best I can and accept the possibility that anything can happen.
What you are going through is very natural and I suspect you will have a very healthy baby and very soon at that! Congrats!

you don't need to worry about that... It is common(I know I worried all the time that something would happen). Congratulations, I am sure you have had your bundle of joy by now.. if not, good luck on your delivery!

I think you are totally normal in your worries. I, too, knew a couple people who lost their babies late in their pregnancies. My first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage so I think that also contributed to my anxiety. You only have a few days left to go - yay! Remember that if you ever feel a decrease in fetal movement (especially at this point) to call your doctor or go to the hospital. They will hook up the fetal monitors to make sure the heartbeat is strong and the baby is not in distress.

I think everyone has this fear with every pregnancy...I know I did and all was well.....I am sure that you and your baby will be fine.

Welcome to motherhood! Every Mom worries...all the time. Your baby will be fine. I'm sure your doing everything right. As soon as the baby is born safe and sound, there will be a whole new world of things to worry about. I cant tell you how many times I've talked had to talk myself down from being a nervous wreck worrying about what might happen to my daughter, but just know it comes with the territory and don't let worrying about your child effect you or the baby in a negative way, and you'll be fine. Congratulations on your new baby!!!

Hi B.... It's perfecly normal to have those types of worries... welcome to motherhood, because even when they get here you'll worry about something else. Have you gotten the book, what to expect when expecting? It even talks about that in there... how, some mothers might be anxious about impending birth (that they can't or wont do it) or they worry about whether or not the baby is healthy. I think it just hits closer to home since you've had friends that unfortuantely had to have the awful experience of losing a child. With my first son I worried all the time that he wasnt heatlhy. I even had bad dreams from time to time.. Everytime they did a routine test (i.e. for downs, etc) I worried that there was something wrong with him and only felt a little better after the results came back fine.. Don't worry yourself. It's perfectly normal.. Some people experience it others dont.. I did with my first and didnt with my second.. good luck