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Is it a wedding shower or a frat party? Jello shots in my opinion are not very "tasteful" for a party of this type.

It's not at a sorority house, so I am with you! I think nice drinks are just fine but as someone else said, the jello shots seem more like a bachlorette party for those who enjoy that type of thing. Just tell her you want things to be more tasteful and less of a party bash.

Jello shots? What, are they in high school? Sheesh.

Inappropriate. A shower environment should be hospitable to friends AND family of the bride, including mothers, grandmothers and future in-laws. Bachelorette parties are where you get the jello shots, lingerie, other "questionable" items.

Since people would be leaving YOUR house, I think you are perfectly within your rights to be concerned about people drinking and driving. I have never heard of anyone needing a designated driver for a shower! If these ladies want to host something more risque, there are more appropriate venues.

I'm with you on this one.

Save the shots for the bachelorette party.

Since it is your home and you would feel responsible for these people and the atmosphere, I would be firm in your choice. If they don't like it, they can find another venue for the shower!

This is not a "jello shot" event. Let the hostess know that no other alcohol will be served. If they insist then tell them they need to find a new venue. As the homeowner you are responsibile for what goes on at the party. Should someone gets drunk they can sue you not the "hostess". As you are the homeowner. Don't do it. A couple of signature cocktails with limited refills is fine but don't go overboard.

Put your foot down! Your house no jello shots. I mean, really! It's a couples shower not a free for all.

For crying out loud! Some people just have to let their white trash flag fly! As the homeowner you are responsible for your guests state of sobriety when they leave your party. Too much liability for Jello Shots. It would be different if you were having a grown up girl slumber party and everyone spent the night. Stick to your guns, if they do not like it then they can find another place to have their free for all. Good Luck.

This is a shower, not a bachelor party. No shots! Beer, wine, cocktails and soft drinks. Save the shots for the wedding. The minute the plastic shot glasses come out, the "class" of the event goes right out the window.

I would hold the line (nicely) on this one and be very honest as to why you don't want them served.

L.,

You are right--your home, your rules. I think that a few drinks is great but anything more is excessive. GL

M

Why in the world would anyone want jello shots at a wedding shower? There are three BIG issues here.
First, as you said, it is tasteless at a more sophisticated event.
Second, YOU are the hostess, and these folks are overstepping big time.
Third, and most important, if someone leaves YOUR house drunk and drives then you may well be liable for accidents and injury.
Tell them at least that last thing, and be firm about it.
Good luck and enjoy the party!

You are right. If you made yourself clear, then put your foot down. They can go out after if they want all that.

its a drinking party no matter what kind of fancy drinks or name you label it. if you think the jello shots are tacky say so. its your house you set the tone.

It is your house, and therefore, you rules, but I understand your predicament.

I would ask them again, to not serve the jello shots. If they continue to want to do so, you can withdraw your house as the site of the party.

No matter what you do, someone will be mad at you. Sorry about that.

Jello shots set the tone of "let's get drunk". If you don't want them there, then speak up. There is going to be someone who gets sloshed drunk anyway, no need advocating it by serving jello shots.