L.S.
K.,
Sorry to hear about your bad experience - especially when this is your first child and nerves are already on end becuase everything you feel with the baby is new and you wonder is this normal etc? I know I did.
Personally, I would do the drive and stay with your old doctor, mainly because they provide you with a comfort and trust level that you need. The less stress and worry you feel, the better for the baby. In the long run it is only for a few more months or so, until you have the baby.
I recently moved to the west side from the North Central Phx area and I still drive to my obgyn in that area as well as take my daughter, now two, to her pediatrician. All I can say is that that the drive is worth it for the added level of security and trust and I get from both doctors.
You always have the option of discussing your concerns directly with the office manager at the new office. I would recommend talking directly with the doctor with the nurse present and maybe even have your husband there so you don't feel ganged up on. Let the nurse try to defend or should I say CYA in front of the doctor - even invite the student nurse in. Lay it all out on the line and send a message that if you continue as a patient you expect and deserve better treatment. However, it sounds like overall, you are not happy with the office.
good luck.
L.