Good Morning J.,
Yes, this is the time they come into their own. They are finding out what works and what doesn't. What you will put up with and what you won't. The wonderful world of manipulation!
Kaylie knows exactly what she is doing and loves to watch you freak out! Yes, at this sweet young age, they already have control over our behavior!!! This could be the beginning of some serious behavioral problems that may go into her teenage years and then yikes, you will really be upset.
It could be time for you to re-evaluate why you allow her to have 'fun' times when she cannot behave. If she chooses to behave like you say she does, then don't take her anywhere. The problem is we think that they should have all this outside activity so they can be around other children, NOT! They are young children, you are molding her to be a nice person and then a good teenager.
Please don't allow her to make you feel bad or doubt your position of her mother. Be strong and don't give her things until she gets rid of this 'attitude.' Trust me, it's easier to deal with this now then when she is 10!
Good luck and be strong!
L. Hein
Author of THE BOOK "I'm Doing The Best I Can!" (They won't always be cute and adorable)
www.lisarhein.com