Teaching My Son About His Body Being Private

"It's MY Body" By Lory Friedman. http://www.amazon.com/Body-Childrens-Safety-Abuse-Prevent...

Excellent, excellent excellent. I used it when my kids were young ( eighteen years ago) and they can still recite the book. Check it out... I HIGHLY recommend it as a jumping off point for further talks.

I see other books on this page too, but have no experience with them. They're inexpensive enough to order a few.

Val

I recommend the "Stranger Safety" video which was created by John Walsh of America's Most Wanted and Julie Clark, the Founder of Baby Einstein Co. This video is funny, not at all scary, and teaches kids about stranger danger. It does NOT cover the subject of keeping body parts private, but it does educate kids about the fact that there are people that can hurt them and they look like everyone else. Might be a good starting point before delving into the subject of privates being private. Good luck!

http://www.amazon.com/Stranger-Safety-Angela-Shelton/dp/B...

Hi D... My son's school implemented the good touch bad touch program last year when he was in kindergarten.. their website is www.goodtouchbadtouch.com
good luck!! this is a hard subject and it's sad that we even have to talk to our kids about this, but I hope this helps you!!

D., I am sure there are tools out there, but I talked to my sonwho is 3 1/2 years old and kept saying to him about that and what he can do if anyone touches them and he has the right to yell and scream and say no, don't touch me at the top of his lungs and I tell him those are yours and what to do if someone wants to touch his and the same thing...yell at the top of you lungs and say no, I will not touch you!! We go over it alot and get it drilled into his head and I will be doing the same with my second son who is 2 1/2 years old after he turns three or maybe now...it's just that I don't know if he understands the difference. He's at the age where he has been potty trained, but needs help with getting his pants back up. That's iffy. Any ideas from others about that for me is fine as well.

Hi D.~
You are your own best tool. Just talk to him, let him know that it is not okay for other people to see him without clothes on or to touch him "on his privates". You know how to talk to him and it's the best thing you could possibly do. You'll have the opprotunity to let him know our bodies are beautiful but they belong to us and no one can or should touch them unless we say okay first. But stress it should be in a long time as children grow up too fast. And, you'll be taking your "relationship" to a different level and hopefully your openness and honesty will stay with him for a long time. You'll also teach him he can talk to you about anything and you'll be there to listen to him. Kids these days are grwoing up too fast. Four years ago, my then 8 year old asked me if he could have his ear pierced. I said no, then he asked if he was allowed to have a girlfriend. I said he already knows girls that are also friends, but he wanted someone to kiss like I kissed my then husband. I was HORRIFIED especially since he was only 8 and then he happily told me his friend (only 9 at the time) had a girlfriend and he watched them "make out" once at his friends home. Apparently the friends mom didn't care what her son was doing with the girls in the neighborhood.
Anyway, good luck with your son and his sports class.
J. S.

mom,

as the mother of 3 boys, the best way is to just say it.

you say JOE

the only people who can touch your dingaling, and bum is MOMMY and daddy,

ask him who can touch him privates?

he should say mom, dad and someone else,
and you say either yes or no,

then say, YOU do not touch anyones privates, either.
these aren't for anyone to see, or touch because they are private. NO sharing LOL

if someone does touch you there, you tell them NO in a loud voice.

and then tell mommy.

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that being said, I have had teachers make my son feel threatened, ( they would say things like I will tell your mom , they wouldn't let him go to the bathroom,and then what would your mom say,or various things called my kid a little liar and then denied it to my face)

I made sure my kids know I AM THE BOSS, not the teacher.
that he must respect her/him, and listen while there, but over all what I say goes.

Eg.. While at practice, you simply and firmly
SAy infront of the coach, while your child over hears,
Mommy is the boss, no body else. OK baby. and he should say ok.

the teacher will not respond.
atleast none ever did for me,

if they did I would simply repeat that I am the boss,
but and that he must listen and follow the rules while with his teacher.

I feel its important for your kids not to feel scared,
but that its up to the parent to show them your the boss and not afraid to say so. LOL

M

I just want to add to what D. told you, which is excellent advice. Give your son a secret word that only you and he knows. This should be the only way anyone other than you and his dad can pick him up from school or a friends. In case of an emergency you can tell a neighbor or policeman the secret word and your son would know he can get in their car. It can be as easy as table or a pets name, but he must never tell anyone what it is.
Also if he is lost or feels the need to run away from danger tell him to go into a store and ask the shopkeeper for help. Then remain in the store till help arrives, not go into a back room or office.
Never warn him about "strangers". When they ask kids what a stranger looks like, most describe a scary man with funny eyes, big teeth and wild hair. Truth is most pedophiles are nice looking friendly people and not always men.