Our daughter is recently DX as having Aspergers. Prior to that Inattentive ADD. Focalin has helped her inattention as well an intesive program through LearningRX a growing support company for kids with math and reading difficulties focused on the brain and written and verbal studies and tests. That helped a good amount too. And you are Right. Where are they the Girls with Aspergers. I "read" that about 40% of cases of Aspergers would be girls so many many are being missed, under the table, under the blanket.... It is shocking that Professionals are not quick to study, accept and learn to help girls with Aspergers! I just went to a small meeting where John Menges originally from the U.K. has set up fun groups for after school skills practice. Most of his kids in the group as you can guess are Boys.
He said he is lucky if he could get 3 girls in the group. He has had one girl in the group who took advantage of the situation, Dressing up to get noticed etc. He did say if there were 3 they could have girl talk time and practice to live amongst girls and women who love to do that. What I have also read another girl not neurotypcial may take a girl with Aspergers on like a mother and child to try to help them cope and grow. That is a good thing if and when that happens! Some of these girls will go on to be Engineers, Scientists, etc. As they area high-functioning and work harder at things.
I sure would like to have such a meeting/group in our area. Our child is 10 years old, now. Just a side note see if you have not the Temple Grandin movie!