Telling My Step Son Im Gonna Have a Baby

So cute he told you you were getting fat...be honest and up front, but I do think his father should be part of telling him.

He is 8, so while you do have to be gentle with those delicate feelings, it is a matter of fact. He will probably be pleased.

Best wishes.

I would tell him that you went to the doctor because you had been so sick and SURPRISE, it turns out we're gonna have a baby. Who knew!?!

I think Dad needs to play a major part in telling him the news.
I know nothing will "change" toward him from your perspective, but this might be huge to him.
He's going to have a half brother or sister that gets to live with his dad 100% of the time. And that's definite potential for him to feel slighted, less than, second fiddle, etc.
Tread carefully. 8 year olds can be very sensitive--even boys.
Congrats!

if hes already noticing that youre sick and gaining weight you need to tell him right away. you need to sit him down in a private area and tell him straight out that you are having a baby. tell him how much you love him and that youre not replacing him. that you will love them the same even though you see him less.. get him involved with the baby, maybe to go with you when you find out the sex..

You both just tell him the truth like it is:
We LOVE you so much
You will never be replaced.
You are our child forever
You will be a big brother and even more loved by your sibling
We will have a bigger family and that is great
Always remember you are special to us

Talk about all the positives about it.

AND make sure that you tell him that he can talk about his feelings, anytime and you are THERE for him. Always.
And that you are all in this together and that you both love him very very much.

If your stepson has already noticed something, you've waited to long to tell him. This isn't complicated. Be straightforward and let him know that you and dad are having a baby. He isn't a little kid. He will be angry if he thinks you are keeping something from him. Treat him like a mature big kid, you and dad need to tell him. Make sure he still has his own space in the house. His mom wanting to have a baby really doesn't affect you and your stepson, but his feelings about only seeing his dad 4 days a month and another child living with dad fulltime may be an issue. Good l uck

I would have told him as soon as he noticed your belly was getting "fat." Have his father tell him the next time he visits, and I'd be sure to present it as something he'll get to take part in ie. he gets to be a big brother. Make sure that he knows his room will remain his own room and he won't be displaced. Ask him if he would like to help with some of the planning in getting ready. I would also make sure that he gets special recognition gifts "from the baby" and at your baby shower.

how about "you know the last time you were here you asked why I was so sick? well turns out we are having a new baby? How cool is that your going to be a big brother!!"

Tough for the kid. Hopefully his dad gives him special him and him time. Yes be gentle when you tell him and say you are going to have a brother. Keep him involved

You and DH should just tell him. He probably suspects anyway. My sks were VERY SURPRISED but took it OK. One thing SD wanted to know was would she be able to do after school activities and we said that yes, she could. We tried to make the sks' events just like we always did, even if it meant getting a sitter.