Temper Tantrums - Charleston,SC

thats pretty easy, i have definately been there, i am a mother of 7 kids, the youngest is 7 weeks old. anyways DO NOT PICK him up, dont give him his way, it will be hard but well worth it, he needs to know you are boss, not him. its called tough love, but you have to do it to earn your respect and sanity.

When you start your chores, where is he? I have found that as long as my son can see me, he's okay. So I put him in his high chair (it has wheels) and I can push him into any room I'm in and he's fine. AS far as getting what your son wants, I was always told that if you give him exactly what he wants everytime he wants it, you're only spoiling him. I'm not sure about spoiling him but I have always found it helpful to let children cry it out. Maybe its true, maybe he thinks he's being rewarded for this type of behavior. Try just leaving him alone for 5 minutes and see if he finds something to preoccupy himself. Sometimes, giving him something to play with will make him forget what he was crying about in the first place. All you can for your sanity is try.

Good luck!

Oh I feel for you!! I have a son that is 27 mths and he is worse than ever about all those problems. It started around the time of your sons age and just got a little worse. If we are at home I will just walk away. Sometimes it can be REALLY hard to let him cry and scream. But so far it is working with my son he is slowly becoming more independent. When we go out he still wants me, however if you have the choice put him in a small stroller at the market or whenever you go out. Hope this helps.

I know it seems really harsh but you have to ignore the tantrums. If he has been changed and is not hungry and you are sure that it is just a temper tantrum, walk away from him to show him that he can not get his way by behaving that way. I am going through the same thing with some of the children in my class, as well as my own daughter. They think that if they keep crying that you will give in and if you do, you just make them want to do it longer to get their way. This is something that I have wittnessed a lot in my few years of day care work, and let me tell you, if I had a nickle for every time a parent said that they can't stand to hear the child cry, I'd be rich! lol But after talking to them and explaining that it is just a phase and the kids have to learn what they need to do to get things, most of the parents have learned to ignore the senseless crying and tantrums.

What I do with my daughter is leave the room. As long as she is in a safe place and is not endangering herself, I go to the bathroom or bedroom (where I can still hear her and see that she is safe) and wait for her to calm down. This shows her that not only is it unexeptable to behave this way, but that it is not going to get her what she wants. When she has calmed down, she comes to me and I talk to her about it. I make sure that she knows it is not going to work.

When I am working, I make sure the child is on a soft surface (we have a tumbling mat in my room that works great for this). I make sure that the other children are not giving the tantruming child attention, and walk away. Granted I can not leave the room, but it still shows them that crying and screaming is not going to get them what they want. I tell the child,"I'm sorry that you are mad, but this is not the way to get what you want...you need to use your words or show me." I am the teacher of a toddler class that is primarily children ages 16-24 months, so we see this all time.

Hope this helps!

Hello A. my name is H. and I have a 2 yr old son and a 3 year old daughter. My daughter went thru the tantrum phase a little bit my son however look out. He used to be terrible getting into things he knew he wasnt allowed to, you have no idea how many cartons of eggs I went through. And when I wouldnt do what he wanted he would throw himself down and scream. What I did was WALK AWAY. Let him freak out and get it over with he will know that he is not winning and screaming is not bothering you. so go do your dishes, laundry or dusting and let him lay. Then you get into the next phase which is the "no "phase. Fun stuff!! Anyways I know it is hard to hear your baby cry, but believe me that now is when you get over it and be a lil tough good luck

Hi A.,

Let me start off by saying, you are the parent and in control of raising your child, not the child in raising his mom. I know it is hard, but just walk away. Let him know you aren't going to tolerate the behavior. He is going through a phase, but it is one of many. He is trying to manipulate you into what he wants and not what has to be done. Be firm and stand your ground. Once his tantrum has stopped, don't baby him, let him know in a firm voice that you did not appreciate the tantrum and sit him down on a "bad boy" stool. The time limit is up to you, remember he is only 2. It is time out, but it is effective. Be consistent and don't feel quilty for being strong. In the long run he will learn to respect you not run over you. It will get quite embarrassing when you go out in public and he displays this behavior and he will. He is testing you. Don't cave. If you stop it now, than all will fall into place later. Good Luck.

Best I can say is ignore it.Make sure he is not hurt, hungry, thristy, or anything like that and then put him down tell him your not picking him up again and try to get him interested in playing with a toy. It does get better I have four kids and have been through the same thing with all of them. Good luck!

Hi A.,
The first thing you need to remember is you are the parent not him. It may hurt your feelings more in the begining but you need to stay consistant with him and NOT give in. Just think, if you constantly give in now, in the years to come things will only get worse. Children are smarter than we think, they understand if I keep on crying she will give in, so let me keep on acting that way. This phase he is going through is seeing how much her can get away with and control you. Just try to stay consistant. He will eventually stop crying, you need to just ignore him. Trust me, I know how a crying child can drive us crazy but it will stop in time. Good luck!!