Toddler Climbing in Baby's Crib...

Make it a rule he's not allowed to crawl in there and enforce. 2 1/2 is way old enough to be trusted for that. Or let him crawl in there and make sure he knows what he's not allowed to do around the younger one ( for a couple minutes here and there, not at night of course). I've got 3 in the same room and the older two aren't allowed to climb in with the baby unless I say so, so they don't. But if I say they can to play sometimes they do.
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He wants to be in the crib/have the crib... because now baby has it and he does not.
Also, he may miss his crib.

But gee, I hope baby does not get hurt/smashed.... by his big brother....
It is dangerous.... must keep on eye on that....

Tell him he is a big boy.... and he has his own bed. Make his bed all special...

Some 'regressions' can occur, when there is a baby around....

For me, I would just really worry that the baby will get hurt.
Like at night, when our older toddler is supposed to be sleeping.... but without your knowing, goes INTO the crib... and either wakes up baby or by mistake steps on him... etc. Or what if baby falls out????

Toddlers this age, do not have fully developed impulse-control yet. And, anytime at night or sleep... he may just get into the baby's crib....
Toddlers... cannot be counted on... to just STAY in their bed, unmoving all night....

Can you just put the crib in your room... for now? Until baby gets bigger or then goes to his own bed?

all the best,
Susan

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We moved our boys in together when the younger was about a year old and that was an issue for us (they are 20 months apart). While the younger was still in the crib we often had to put the older one down first since he is a sound sleeper and that way he would leave his little brother alone. As they both got older they went through a few phases, including both hanging out in the crib playing, the older jumping up and down on the younger to bug him when the younger was trying to sleep, the younger throwing sippy cups at the older one's head while he was trying to sleep, the older one climbing in and painting his little brother, the bedding, the crib, and the rest of the bedroom in poop (my husband woke up to that one while I was at work, for which I am forever grateful), and sometimes having the older go down last if he was convinced to tiptoe and whisper and try not to "wake the baby."

He probably won't do too much damage, but you might feel better using a monitor or making sure the older one is sleeping first. We had a really rough time with naps just because they slept more lightly and kept each other awake more. I kept my younger boy in the crib until he was 2 only because we didn't have a twin for him yet, but my older one was on a twin doing well by 16 months or so, so you could consider this just temporary. They'll figure it out eventually. The boys loved tossing toys and books and all the bedding in the crib and using it as some kind of hideout or cave I think. Just being creative little punks. :)

It's dangerous for him to be climbing in and out of the crib. I think he's old enough to be told no and given some discipline if he doesnt follow thru.

Hi, Jean:
Big brother has regressed.
Okay, you know that.
Now how to negotiate with him about
being in the crib with little brother?
or without his little brother?
Can you think of ways to resolve this?
D.