J.C.
Oh, your instincts are right on. 1pm for a 9 year old??? - ( I have a 9 year old grandson that I help raise ) -- Even for the 13 year old - 1pm is WAYYYY too late. Yes, children need a break from school during the week-end - tht's why they don't have to get up Saturday and Sunday and rush off to a day of school. They are loosing hours of rest that they desperately need. As a 40 year plus parent and teacher I promise you -- you know what is wrong - too many hours of vidoe games -- too little rest --- You are the at home parent and you are suffering the consequences of allowing your excellent husband to ''tell you how to do your job''' --. Dad's of course need to be listened to - but if you told him how to deal with his job he'd say ''' stop''' --- as an at-home Mom you see things he doesnt -and it IS your area of expertise. It will give you a tough few weeks - but I STRONGLY urge you to :
1. establish school time schedule for Sept------June that gives all 3 of your growing, young children the hours of rest that you and your doctor agree is appropriate - and that includes weekend bedtimes that allow them to start Monday morning rested, refreshed and ready for school which is harder and harder work for kids ( as a teacher - it truly concerns me)
So - if you say
2. '''summer and weekend bedtimes are 10 pm for the 13 - and 9pm for the 9 - ( yes there will be howls - your the parent- your call - and you hve control of the video games - you can always remind them that TOO much protest could mean going video game free altogether for a month- their teachers would be thrilled.) I'm making the times up- you know your children best -- I have friends whose 13 year old daughter has always had a huge need for rest- and she still has an 8:30 bedtime ( carefully '''''hidden'''' from her friends)--- becasue if she doesnt get that much rest- she is a maniac-- you know your children-. AND I promise you- if you say '''' well your bedtime is 9-- but you can have your light on TO READ AND ONLY TO READ __ quietly in your bed''''
again- your childrens' teachers ---- and the adults your children are growing into- will be so grateful.
Video games really arent' fun--- they are not playing, they are not learning, they are not becoming good at making friends - they are watching little imaginary dots pretend to play - pretend to move- pretend to ---------( yes, my nine year old grandson has 'em - but when he's at Grandmas house - the time he has them is determined by me - )
Blessings,
-- I tip my cup of coffee to you-
J.