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I'm six months pregnant with my first child, and in about a month will be flying back home to visit with my family. Apparently, my mother is throwing me a baby shower there. It won't be a huge thing, mostly family with a few old friends, and a few of my mother's close friends. I'm very excited about this (just found out last night!). However, I live out of state, surrounded by my hubby's family. I know my SIL's are thinking about throwing me a small shower here, with just family. I'd really like to have one here too, since there's no way my in-laws could be at the one back home... Would it see.... greedy to have two baby showers? Also, I don't know my in-laws very well (except two of my SILs) as we just moved here from Florida, and it would be a pretty small group, probably only 10 or so women. Also, this would be from both my hubby's mom and dad's sides, so they'd only know about half the group themselves. I'm worried about it getting very awkward!!!! This is the first of hubby's kids to live around his family (he and his ex-wife lived out of state), and I know he's wanting his family to be a big part of this baby's life. So I'm really hoping a baby shower would start this off on the right foot! Any thoughts, advice, ideas are welcome!!! This is really important to me, as I want a good relationship with my in-laws!
I had two showers. 1 with friends and people from work, also some relatives. I then had another small one with immediate family. All is well. Congratulations!
Don't worry, this is normal! I had a shower thrown by co-workers, one thrown by my husband's rugby team (that one was interesting, to say the least), and one thrown by my mom. Since the guest lists were completely different, nobody at any one shower knew about the other showers. And believe me, there is no way on earth I'd have wanted the rugby team mixing with my co-workers (cringe!)... so it all worked out for the best.
It is okay to have multiple showers as long as the same guests are not being invited to more than one and obligated for multiple gifts. Some people have a shower for mom's side of the family that is separate from dad's side of the family or separate family and friend showers.
It's not greedy at all! Showers exist because people want to bless you and your family, and we all have different 'circles' in our lives. I had 3 separate showers: one in our old hometown which my MIL hosted and old friends/family were invited; one in our current city, with our church community; and one small one a girlfriend hosted for a few ladies I'm good friends with outside of our church. There wasn't any overlap, so no chance of people feeling obligated to buy multiple gifts.
Enjoy them, and enjoy being the center of attention :). Pretty soon people will just be saying hello to your baby and forget to even give you a nod :)!
OMG have both showers and enjoy!!! People are throwing the shower for you and baby, you can't help it if that much love is coming your way. It will be fun, just show up to both and have a great time. Since they all live so far apart, they will understand. Or tell your in-laws your mom is having a shower for you while you are home since she won't be able to make fly down here when the other shower occurs and she send her love!
Go for it! We live close to both of our families but our families don't get along. I had two baby showers. My mom threw a traditional "ladies only" shower for my side of the family and family friends on that side (abt 14 ppl). Then my in-laws threw a more modern co-ed shower for hubby's side of the family plus our friends (abt 60 ppl).
I say yes to 2 showers. You are celebrating with different people/families and everyone wants to share the moment with you. We have 2 kids and yes I know traditionally only the first gets the shower but now a days people have showers for each as a celebration of the baby coming. With that I had 2 showers, my work provided a shower for me each time and my best friend for friends and family. Don't feel funny, enjoy it and be happy and lucky that you have family near you to help and spend time with. Congrats!
As long as you are up front with everyone about why you are having two showers, it wouldn't be tacky. It would be weird if you were doing it yourself or were planning to invite people from one to the other. I am sure that everyone will understand. If they don't....well they don't. Oh well.
This is absolutely fine. Many people I know have at least two! You might have work friends, family in town, family out of town, your hubby's co-workers might want to do something special. This is your first. You need a lot of stuff. Actually, you won't "need" half of what you think you do, but it's fun to see all the cute things!! Now, when your baby is almost 1 and you are having to buy new clothes for all the seasons and the growth of your baby......4 times their birth size....you might wish you could have ANOTHER shower!! LOL! Congrats and good luck!
I have to admit, I did not read all the posts, but I had 4-5 baby showers with my first! My husband's work. Family. And as a nurse, each shift from 2 different floors gave me a shower.
I did see someone say Go For It! With any luck, maybe you won't have to buy diapers for a while!
Congrats!
As long as you aren't throwing your own shower, you don't look greedy at all.
Congratulations.
It's not uncommon to have 2 or more showers. It's only greedy or inappropriate if your asking the same people to give you more than one gift.
I had four. I I had one at my work and my husband's office wanted to throw us one. I was in the same boat, where I had to fly home to see family. Between both sides of the family and my friends there were too many people, so we had two showers at home, one for family and one for friends. If people want to throw you a party, be gracious and accept the offer, it's not greedy. I also think you are right about starting the family relations off right. If you rejected the party, it could look bad to your in-laws. Congratulations on your baby.
Tee Hee...The more celebration there is for mom and baby-to-be the better in my book.
I had 5 with my first: My family, his family, my friends, his friends (couples shower), co-workers. I don't even have the excuse of distance...All were held within a 40 mile radius.
I guess I had my quota because we had 0 with the 2nd and I sometimes feel like it was somehow mean-spirited not to celebrate his coming in some way.
Sweetie - have all the showers you want - or that someone is willing to throw for you! I had 3! My work threw one, my girlfriends threw another one and my SIL had one for family.
I agree with the other moms who have posted, have both showers and don't worry about it. When I was pregnant, 4 showers were thrown for baby and me, one by girlfriends, one by/for family, one by my husband's office and one by my MIL in Chicago. There was no overlap on the guests for each. I was blown away by everyone's generousity.
Enjoy your showers and your pregnancy!
That doesn't sound greedy to me at all. Enjoy the attention!
Anyone who would like to throw you a baby shower can if you are fine with it. Just enjoy!
I also had several showers for my baby. One at work, with moms side and one with dads side. Enjoy them. multiple showers for first baby is not uncommon. and the question is not the same as "hey I am having another baby 15 months after the first can I have another shower lol" enjoy your family and friends showering love and attention on the new little one. advice as far as it goes with in laws. let them have it. My husbands family is a big italian family. I had met most of them exactly twice before. my wedding shower and wedding lol. they don't live in the same town and get together for weddings / funerals / baptisms and graduations. showers are expected and all the women would be horrified not to get an invite to this. so enjoy.
With our first I ended up having 4 showers!!!! Our first was with our families, then I had one at work, our church ladies threw one for us and then a friend of mine also threw me a surprise one that was more a spa day, but lots of my friends brought gifts for the baby.
I think that anyone who wants to celebrate the baby and your new family is exciting!!! With our #2 and #3 we didn't have showers at all. We have had all boys and they are really close together, so we had everything we needed. Instead of a shower we had a "meet the baby open house" party and people (mostly family and close friend) just came over and saw our new bundles.
If people want to throw you a shower except the gesture as a sign that they love and support you.
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It sounds like a good way to include everyone. Sometimes circumstances and distances just call for 2 of something. Stop worrying and enjoy the attention, once the little one comes all the attention will be on him or her (as it should be)!
Blessed Be you and yours.
i think that is great! we had two baby showers because my husbands family doesnt seem to want to attend family things when it involves my family. so we often have 2 of everything, not that we want it that way, but it does seem to work out well.
I had three. One at work, one for friends & family where I live, one out of state at my MILs house. I think it's great that everyone wants to share in your joyous occasion. Enjoy it because once the baby comes it will be all about him/her and you'll just be in the background :)
Make sure to do his side AFTER the baby is born. Then you will have PLENTY to talk about and everyone will be busy with the baby so you won't be uncomfortable!
No, it's not greedy. It's not like you're inviting the same people to both!
Congrats and ENJOY! (Don't forget to register for what you need!)
Since people are offering, ACCEPT IT!! They want to be a part of it with you, so allow it. They WANT to do it for you! Enjoy yourself!! Especially since they are in different towns. Even in the same town, if different groups (coworkers, your family, some friends, the in-laws, your church family, etc.) want to shower you seperately, I say have fun! Enjoy your little blessing!!
It's perfectly fine to have 2 baby showers, especially since the same people aren't being invited to both of them! Enjoy it!
