S.
Congratulations on nursing so long!
At almost 3yrs of age, I don't know that a replacement bottle is necessary...
A friend of mine with a nursing preschooler recently told me that she thinks that, at this point, it's a habit bordering on addiction for her daughter. Wake up, nurse, eat lunch, nurse, get hurt, nurse, etc.....She's a stay-at-home, so their routine differs some from yours. It's really nice to have that to fall back on if the One-on-One time has been on the skimpy side....helps restore things.
As far as practical weaning tips...it depends on how abrupt or gradual you want to be. If you're ready to be done, yesterday, then you may feel the faster the better....One mom put Band-Aids on her nipples and told her ds that they had owies and needed to be done. Another mom told her 3yr old son that they milk was gone, but that they could cuddle instead. For him, it was all about physical touch, so replacing nursing with cuddles was effective for them.
If your daughter needs some transition time to get used to the idea of not having that particular connection with you, then some creative ideas are needed. Whether you start coloring together, reading books more, maybe special/new books for those times.....
I guess the only tip that I really have is to not just take the nursing away, but to replace it with something...fill the gap. If you can determine why your dd still wants/needs to nurse, then you can come up with a more effective replacement activity.
Also, depending on just how much she is nursing, I would be hyper-aware of my breasts and watchful for plugged ducts during the weaning process. Your local LLL leader can be a lot of help too. They are volunteers with lots of breastfeeding experience...and are there to help!
Hope this all makes sense! Feel free to email me if anything I wrote needs clarification.
HTH - I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers
K., mama to
Catherine, 4.5y (nursed for 2.5y)
Samuel, 17m (and still going strong!)