What Age Does a Girl Get Her Eyebrows Done?

These days there is no need to get her eyebrows done or her upper lip hair removed. By suggesting that it's necessary you will make her self-conscious. Many of my friends have daughters in high school who don't do any of that. They focus on school work, exercise and real friends who don't tease them for anything about their appearance. If and when she comes home and ASKS for hair removal or lightening, then and only then it's time to take action.

I would not say or do anything until she herself brings it up.
It might not bother her at all, and you bringing it up could make her feel bad/self-conscious and could start her questioning
herself:"Am I pretty/fat/unpopular" etc. Just leave it be.

Hi M.,
It would all depend on the girl herself; most girls don't concern themselves with the removing of extra facial hair until 12 or so. Being a mom of two girls, (7 & 17) my oldest didn't start until 11 or 12. My oldest didn't look 11 years old at the time, but she felt it was necessary. Being a cosmetologist for over 18 years- it is simply a choice by the girl and her mother. If the hairs are strays, it would be easier to have them tweezed correctly. A good professional (with experience) would either recommend waxing or threading for her facial hair.
Bleaching isn't a bad option either as it isn't as painful, however..it depends on the individual's reaction to the product and her pain threshold to waxing or threading. I have clients who prefer wax or threading; and vice versa.
Every woman is different; one of my nieces had her eyebrows done around 10 years old because her mother saw it necessary to alleviate the peer pressure of the "uni-brow" look for her. I hope this helps bring a little resolution to your question; and I wish you & your girls the best.

Hi M.!

It's so wonderful that you are sensitive to your step-daughter's feelings.

I was one of the girls that had the same problem when I was young. Dark hair, uni-brow, long dark hairy legs, etc.... My mom didn't let me shave until I was 12.

We don't want our girls to grow up too fast before the age of 12, and doing things like that could emotionally force your step-daughter be more self-conscious about her appearance. In turn, she begins to grow up too fast.

Every mom is different, though. Nowadays I see so many young girls growing up too fast. It hurts my heart.

I think if your step-daughter isn't "complaining" too much, and it was more of a one-time discussion, then leave it alone. Of course she will bring it up again, but after you've had a chance to talk to dad, mom, and "feel it out".

Good Luck, M.!

:o) N.

hi, why not schedule a "girl's pampering day"? Talk to her mom and ask her if it's okay -- discuss guidelines -- explaining what you had in mind. . .a manicure, pedicure and that you were going to get YOUR eyebrows done. Discuss appropriate colors of nail polish etc. Then, when you mention to your step daughter that you were getting your eyebrows done, see if she seems interested. Make it seem like it's HER idea, ESPECIALLY if she is sensitive OR if you will end up looking like the bad guy to her mom.

Then go out for coffee and talk about how fun it was being "pampered". :0)

No offense, but I don't think that this one is really your business. In my opinion, you are maybe trying to relive your own problem, and this child as of now has no problem. If you bring it up you create a problem. Doesn't seem worth it to me. In time things will happen. Don't make her into your vision of perfection. She's her own self.

Just my opinion,
M.

She should start doing those things whenever the responsible adults decide is appropriate.

When you say "get her eyebrows done," do you mean do them herself or go to a salon? It seems indulgent for young girls and teens to get their brows done professionally -- at that age they should do it themselves, or with help from parents. Professional salon treatments should be for older women who have worked hard for such luxuries.

Buy tweezers or use a home waxing kit. It's not rocket science.

Hi. Just go ahead and have it threaded off. It's better she is not teased and feels good about herself. Sooner or later it will need to be done, so why not just start now since it's noticable? I started my daughter on lip and eyebrows in 6th grade. Threading is easier on the skin compared to waxing. There is a wonderful place in Dublin, Threads Beauty Bar, and it's very reasonable. Once my daughter is just a little older I will have her get the laser hair reduction. We are close to going to a consultation for that, as we seem to have to thread every 3 weeks now. Best of luck to you and your daughter.

When I was in high school, my mom took me for electrolysis treatments. It was a more permanent solution, and the woman just did a general shaping of my unruly brows. Today, 25 yrs later, I still just do touch ups. The electrolysis hurt while it was happening, but for the past two decades eyebrow maintenance has been easy.

Hi M.. My daughter is 11 and in 6th grade. She had a unibrow. I thought 6th grade, middle school, would be okay to wax the eyebrows. We just "cleaned up" a bit. She took out the middle hairs and slimmed down the brow slightly. In this way, my daughter still looks like an eleven year old. The thinner and more shaped brows make the girl look older, like she is trying to grow up too fast.
Anyway, my daughter just has her third waxing, since starting middle school, and everything has worked out just fine.
Good luck to you and your step-daughter.

Does she shave her legs yet? If so, then it seems like an appropriate age to wax her eyebrows and upper lip. I think it's better just to take care of it before anybody teases her. It's not like she doesn't notice it when she looks in the mirror. She probably just doesn't know what to do about it. I think she will be happy if you offer to help her out by taking her to the salon the next time you go, or the next time you take her sister, etc.

You seem like a great "bonus mom" and I wish you luck with having more kids! =)

please don't plant seeds in this girl's mind that she is not beautiful the way she is.

I know what girls go through when they are teased regarding thier eye brows because the same thing happened to my Daughter when she was in the sixth grade , but the girl who teased her was jealous of my Daughter and the reason I say this is because my Daughter's eye brows were fine but she has always cared about what other people think. To make a long story short my Daughter took matters into her own hands and shaved them off and used an eye brow pencil to draw them on. I noticed it when I woke her up to get ready for school because I didn't see her the night before because I was at work.
Her self esteem really took a beating when her Friend teased her and it took her along time to recover.
I believe that waxing or cream would be the best because you are right alot of the other ways like plucking are very painful. I hope this helped you some.
My Daughter is 25 years old now and she still can't believe she did that but at the time she was very young and impressionable and I can still remember her crying and it broke my heart.

You cannot save a kid from being teased. Every kid gets teased about something. But you can begin to teach her to feel good about herself for who she is (not how she looks) and you can begin to teach her how to respond to kids who tease. That seems to me to be a better place to focus your attention than on what can be changed about her appearance.

I would take her now before she starts getting teased. My daughter had the same problem, thick leg hair ,arm hair and facial hair. I let her shave her legs in spring of fifth grade and started waxing right before junior high. We tried plunking and removal creams at home, but they did not work very well. Waxing works for us. I take her and we are out within ten-fifteen minutes. She said it is a lot less painful than plunking! That is awesome you so close to your stepchildren!!:)

It's amazing the hurtful things girls can say to one another to help themselves feel superior. A wonderful book that talks about girl bullying is "Odd Girl Out".

My daughter had her leg hair pointed out in third grade by a girl bully. Other girls had their unibrows publicly pointed out by the same blonde "hairless" girl in 4th grade.

We started shaving her legs this past summer (she's 10) to help her self esteem. She dances and the hair was becoming obvious. If you stepdaughter is sensitive or may be affected by comments other girls hurtfully make, I'd take the bull by the horns and do something before it becomes an issue. If she's strong and can withstand it and doesn't care (and is ready with the comebacks "thanks for noticing"), then wait. My daughter suffered in silence and was humiliated.

I disagree with nearly everyone else who has responded here. By making your stepdaughter already start with these beauty routines, you are sending the message that there is something wrong with her the way she is, and that her natural self - which I am sure is beautiful - is flawed and needs to be fixed/improved. This is absolutely the wrong, wrong, wrong message to send to any child, much less an 11 year old girl. You are also setting her up to have to maintain her eyebrows/upper lip from here on out for the rest of her life. What child wants to be burdened with that? I wish you luck but do hope that you will rethink this.

Hi M.,

What does the 17 year old do about plucking, shaping, waxing etc.? The girls probably talk about things like this. Maybe you could approach the older one first. If you talk to the 11 year old, it might make her self-conscious about things she’s not even thinking about at this age.

It’s nice that you want to be good and caring second mom. Sounds like you have found yourself a good man as well. I wish you a very happy marriage and life.

Blessings….

My daughter has a unibrow i let her get her eyebrows waxed for her 10th Birthday. We continue to get it done every couple months when needed. I tell my girls "Sometimes it hurts to be buetiful".