My DH (whom I really love) and I work full time and have a 14month old son. We are fortunate to have my aunt live with us so she can take care of our son while at work. I'm a clean/organized person who does not like clutter and always puts things where they belong. Anyway, I go to work an hr earlier than DH. Therefore, I always leave him asleep with our son. I hate the fact that everyday he would go to work without making our bed or tiding the room up because mostly it's his mess. So his excuse is always "I didn't want to wake him up" Whatever he is just lazy to do so most of the times. Another thing is when I get off work I go change into comfortable clothes and put away the dirty ones in the hamper or if still clean I hang them in the closet. When DH gets off work, he would leave his shoes/socks on the floor, pants on the floor/bed and shirt on the bed and will forget about them until I complain about them. I have tripped over shoes and clothes on the floor but still he does not get it. So our room would go for a whole week looking all messy til the wk-end when I can clean up because he works on wk-ends too. So I just pile up all his clothes on a corner for him to come and sort through.
So tell me mamas do your hubbies do this or some other sort of annoying things?
PS: Been together for 8yrs and married for 2yrs.
Thanks for your great hilarious responses ladies...So I read to him the post and the answers and he's like "Babe I'm better than some of these hubbies here" and I knew he would say that...but anyways Rachel D yours just killed me...so funny!
Ooh! some other things he does are:
-he snores like crazy
-brushes his teeth in the shower that he has only cleaned once for past year that we've been in the new house.
-He does not open his mail that is taking over the kitchen counter unless I complain about it.
-He likes collecting/buying anything to do with electronics...our garage is full of his crap because I won't allow it anywhere else in the house
-always leaves a stinky diaper on my night stand...the diaper genie is just within his arm reach
He PEES in the shower. Every time he steps in the shower, he pees. I mean, that's freaking disgusting!!! The toilet is two steps away from the shower and he refuses. I mean...really???
Married 11 years.....
We've been together 16+ years and married 9 next month. I know this sounds petty and silly, but I hate it when he uses my bath towel!! He does this b/c he forgets to grab a clean one or has failed to hang up the one he used the day before and it's laying on the bathroom floor in a moist pile. So he'll grab mine! I know the last place he dries and I know the 1st place I dry ~ yuck!
The one thing I do that really ticks him off is that I leave the door to the laundry room open while the washer is going. I do this for a couple reasons; one is so I can hear when the washer stops and I can change it or I'll forget and two is b/c my dog's water/food bowls are in there and she needs access :) Apparently the sound of the washing machine irritates him...Oh, and I do love and adore my hubby too!
Mine will call me at work and ramble on for 30 minutes about things we can discuss at home, but if I call him at work with something minor... "Is this important? If not, tell me tonight." If I rushed him off the phone he'd freak.
Sorry, he just did this to me and when I ask him about it later, he'll have no idea what I'm talking about.
didn't even read your ? !!
WHAT DOESN'T HE DO TO ANNOY ME?? J/K!
Actually, we're coming up on our 30th anniv....we've learned to overlook A LOT! AND THE LIST GROWS LONGER EACH DAY......
Rachel D…you cracked me up!!! OMG, thanks for the laughs!
My husband has none of those habits that drive you all nuts. He puts his clothes in the hamper, his dishes in the sink, does all the cooking and most of the cleaning. I really should not be annoyed about ANYTHING…but he does irritate me. I know I’m a Shrew!!!
He calls everyone to dinner 10m before it is on the table. He wants us all sitting and waiting when we have things we need to do.
After he cleans the floor he doesn’t want anyone to step on it. I have yet learned to hover above it.
The minute anyone leaves a room he is yelling at us to turn off the light; doesn’t matter that you are going right back. Or better yet, turns the light off while your in the room doing something.
Uses my towel because he doesn’t check and make sure his is where it belongs.
He can’t put anything back where it belongs. He is super clean but totally disorganized. When he does organize, it makes sense ONLY to him. No one can follow it so it gets messed up again, most often by him because he forgets where he originally put it, because it made no sense to put it there.
Loses his keys, wallet, glasses and cell phone DAILY!!!!!
Ahhhhhh, feels good to vent but, God I love him and would be COMPLETELY lost without him. He is truly a wonderful man and I am so lucky to have him.
You would never be able to live with my husband.
He slowly undresses as he comes in the door. Sport coat hung over the kitchen chair, then the tie on the door handle of the coat closet, then socks, shoes, pants and belt in the middle of the living room floor. I can't tell you how many times I have been holding one of my children and almost fell tripping over his big ol' size 13's in the middle of the floor.
On any given day, there are 10 shirts and 10 pairs of pants on our bedroom floor. DH just throws them there.
He shaves and leaves hair all over the bathroom sink.
He picks his toes in bed or on the couch.
He loses his keys, wallet and phone daily. I am responsible for helping him find them.
If I pile his clothes up for him to sort through, he never does. So, guess who ends up doing it all?
That felt SO good to vent!!
I do love him - but MAN he frustrates me sometimes!!!
Been married 20 years- and he drives me crazier every day. But the list of things I love is much longer. :-)
One huge thing is that I have to keep a second copy of his to-do (aka honey-do) list. Because once he starts to get bored or annoyed by it, he will just throw it away, whether things are done or not! I can't even imagine throwing out a list with things on it I still need, but for him it's out of sight, out of mind. Crazy.
They have no idea what we put up with! Thanks for posting!
Great question and nice way to vent. I"ve been married 11 yrs and I've given up. My hubby does 2 things that drive me crazy. One, he blows his nose in the shower. Just lets the snot and buggers go wherever. Then I go to try to give kids a bath and I have to clean the tub.
Second is the clothes thing. He just throws his clothes all around our room like hes a teenager. So I will spend and entire day cleaning and folding his mess, along with any clothes I've swashed and folded. I will lay them in neat piles on his side of the bed, thinking he will put them away. NOPE, he throws them on the ground. UGH
Rachel D, you remind me of Dr Phil's wife Robin the time she was asked if her husband is as smart at home as he is on his show. She said he is really smart with his work stuff, but comes in the house and says "honey, where do we keep the ice?"
My husband makes me nuts when he does a bunch of laundry on weekends. I do laundry all week and come Saturday I dont want to! He will do a few loads and brings them in with a big grin on his face and dumps them on my lap and says,, "here ya go, I helped and now all you have to do is fold and put away." I NEVER complain because, well, he is doing laundry, but good grief, give me a day off please.
Is there a character limit to the response area? LOL
•He SNORES like a Mack truck. Every...single....night for over 14 years.
•He puts dishes, etc on the counter RIGHT by the dishwasher (soooo close!)
•I suspect, left unchecked, he would be a hoarder...he hangs things ON things...like his work clothes dresser drawer handles, thus causing me to move 5 things just to put away HIS clothes! Grrrr......
•He and his entire family apparently have no need for or understanding of ANY medical facts. His mom, his dad, whoever...goes to the doctors for something and I inevitable hear that the consensus it "nerves, needs some leeches, etc: or some other UNmedical diagnosis void of any singular fact. I've stopped asking how their appt. went. LONG ago.
•When I only hear the last few words of a question he asks me and I ask him "what?" he never fails to repeat the only words I DID HEAR!
•He folds his clothes and mates his socks together before putting them in the laundry chute!
We've been together 4, married 2 in Oct. Honestly, I don't have anything that really bugs me about my hubby. Maybe because we are still "newlyweds"??!! But mostly because my ex was such a sh-- that I really have learned to "not sweat the small stuff", and really its all small. I think I honestly get on his nerves WAY more than he gets on mine! :o)
Sounds like you are married to my husband LOL
I totally feel your frustration.
Makes me crazy when he eats ice.
Instead of making the best of a bad situation (like on our nightmare trip to Sea World on the hottest, busiest day of summer with tired, grouchy toddlers) he sometimes gripes and complains as bad, or worse than one of the kids. But I love him and I am thankful he puts up with my quirks!
Unconditional love means that you accept them warts and all. If that is all that annoys you you are BLESSED. Stop focusing on the "small stuff". Does he go to bars drinking? Does he have cyber sex with whoever? Does he cheat on you? Beat you? Gamble his paychecks away? You are the one who has a problem with his untidyness, is he going to change - NO because he doesn't have a problem with it. Sorry but I am older and wiser now and wish I could turn backthe clock and change all the stupid stuff I did to "unknowingly" cause my marriage to fail.
M. F
I've been married 6 years, together 8 years.
My husband has what I call "dishwasher phobia". He is perfectly happy to take his dishes to the sink and wash them off, but he can't put them in the dishwasher (which is right next to the sink). I have concluded that he is afraid of the dishwasher, thus the "phobia".
He drinks a Redbull in the shower every morning and never throws the can away. Ever. They accumulate for about a week and finally, I get sick of looking at them and I gather them all and throw them away.
He is a bed hog. We have a queen (but it wouldn't matter if we had a California king) and he always takes AT LEAST 3/4 of the bed. He is not a big man, so thats not an excuse. I'm all for cuddling- while I'm awake. But when its time to sleep, I need some space and thats kind of hard to do when I'm falling off the side of the bed, with a leg wrapped around me!
My husband owns a small business, so we have to keep every receipt for everything. Every day, he empties his pockets and ALL of his receipts onto the kitchen counter. He has an office in the next room, but he always does this on the kitchen counter. He never picks them up and puts them in the office. I usually get sick of looking at them after a few days and move them.
Oh, here is a big one. I do all of the grocery shopping. I always ask him if there is anything that he wants, or anything he would like me to make for dinner that week. Rarely, he'll come up with a couple things, but usually he can't think of anything. Throughout the week, he'll get in the fridge or pantry and tell me that we don't have anything good....really?? All you have to do is tell me what you want, and I'll get it! I'm not psychic!!!
I think I would be here all day if I went on anymore!
He forgets to take Kleenex out of his pants pockets before it goes in the wash. Big mess but that's pretty minor compared to what some other people deal with.
Together 25 years, married 19 years.
He sleepwalks like a madman.
He has the misfire in his brain that doesn't allow him to put anything in the same spot twice. Seriously, the other day I was looking for diapers, we normally just leave them in the box. So there was no box, hmmm really thought we had more. Text my husband to pick up some more, we are out. He does, then comes home and says, "Oh by the way I put the other ones in here." He put them in a freaking toy bin! Not only did he do that, he didn't bother to tell me when he KNEW I thought we were out, which I was tearing the house apart for. Never thought to look in the FREAKING TOY BIN.
-The man can't seem to make a plan to save his life, and if on the rare occasion he does he doesn't tell me about it. So like an hour before he will fill me in on what it going on...GRRR
-I think he seriously allergy to packing the diaper bag. Seriously. Usually if I get ready first, then while he is getting around I pack the bag. But if he gets ready first I usually find him sitting on the couch, kid running around naked, bag unpacked. He's like a dog, easily distracted,and I swear this is what goes on in his head.
Need to get the kid dressed..Oh look something pretty on the T.V. must stare at it. What was I doing? Oh yeah, getting the kid dressed. Now they are boxing on T.V. Wow that is awesome...Why is this bag thing sitting in front of me? Ah well it must not be important. Hmmm guess I better get the kid dressed...oh look at that!
But then when I come out and catch him just sitting there he jumps up and runs around like a toddler in trouble. Then complains about us never leaving on time. This is when I start fantasizing about pushing him out of the car...if he wasn't driving too fast and so close to the car in front of us.
Added--Oh and forget taking a shower un-interrupted. I mean really you can't keep her busy for 10 minutes while I take a shower?
My husband is apparently incapable of wiping up the table or counter any time anything has gotten slopped up on it - if it's a big spill he'll take care of it, but countless times he can't be bothered to wipe up after he's had our daughter eating at the table. I'm constantly finding crumbs and sticky stains on the table and the kitchen counter after he's prepared food or she's been eating and he'll just leave the mess, and often the plate or bowl with whatever food she didn't eat is left there too. I'm always like, wow, really? How hard is it to clean it up? I've only said something to him about it around a million times!
omg yes! We have been together for 7yrs married for 5yrs. I am a clean/neat freak and my husbands a slob.
He has an allergy to turning anything off
He has selective hearing
Never empties his pockets
Doesnt ever say anything to his mom when shes being a buttinski
He complains about being the only one who picks up dog poop, but fogets that I have done all the yardwork, all the cleaning, all the cooking, taking care of the kids, all of the grocery shopping, paid all the bills, all while working allmost as many hours as he does.
There are many more things but these are the ones that make me the most crazy!
I love him and dont know what I would do without him but there are days I feel like listing him for free on craigslist!
That he can't understand a thing I say--ever! It's either "what" or some thing that makes no sense at all! I've gotten to a point where I tell him to go clean his ears and then maybe we can have a discussion! It drives me insane :)
Been married 14years together 15.We were HS sweethearts but didn't get married until 8 years after HS. Where to start where to start! Ok he will clean his ears with Q-Tips and leave them lying wherever he did it! GROSS He has got to have the dirtiest ears on the planet! He will get a glass out of the cabinet and leave the door open. Really? You can't reach back up and close it? Dirty dishes may make it to the side of the sink but never in it, rinsed off or God forbid into the dishwasher! Dirty clothes get taken off in the laundry room and left on the floor instead of the basket RIGHT THERE beside him! He sleeps dead center of our bed, I am on this tiny sliver to the side. He likes to roll up like a sausge in the comforter while we sleep so I have to keep a death grip on it or I find myself without any covers! OH he eats Ketchup on everything! I mean everything! I buy at least 2 bottles a week. He won't even try anything I make without putting it on there. Boy oh boy I could go on and on! Whew this felt good, I love my husband very much but men are gross(oh and my teenage daughter is just like him!). Thanks for posting the question.
I get really irritated when we are watching tv, and he will give me a synapsis of what just happened or what someone just said. I always say, "I know, I'm watching it too," but he still does it all the time anyway. Sometimes I just have to tell him "it's quiet time!" LOL!
i do the dishes and he will come in behind me and leave his ONE dish or cup in the sink. he can't wash it. drives me CRAZY!!! he dips and leaves the little pieces that fall from his fingers all over the sink. or he spits it in toilet and doesn't flush the toilet, so i have a big poo poo looking blob in the toilet. been together for 8.5 years and married for 7.5 yrs.
My husband and I have been married for almost 6 years and he only does 2 things that cause me serious aggitation! First, he clears his throat constantly, especially in the morning when I am trying to enjoy my coffee and watch the news. I only get to hear every few words and it is sooo irritating!! I have even submitted a plea to Dr. Oz to figure out why he does it! Secondly, he has selective hearing. If I am sitting right next to him and say something to him, he immediately says "What was that"? but dare I fart from 3 rooms away and suddenly he's got super sonic hearing "I heard that"!!! How is that even possible!? LOL
