I breastfed both my kids, and yes, Breastfeeding IS an arduous thing... any breastfeeding woman will say that. It is often a "shock" to a new Mom at how time consuming and tiring it can be. My friend just had a baby 3 months ago... she too was exhausted with breastfeeding... she literally was going crazy with nursing demands and she turned into a real UNhappy miserable Mom... and so she stopped, and switched to Formula bottle feeding. Breastfeeding impacts women differently... there is no right or wrong... but for my friend, she simply could not cope with how it was affecting her mentally and emotionally.
That being said, yes, in the first 2-3 months, while you and a newborn are adjusting and feeding on demand and knowing a baby's hunger cues... it is hard to go out... much less entertain company.
But, you will find your groove... and find what works for you.
Just some tips:
1) get a breastfeeding smock/apron... so you can cover yourself and nurse anywhere.
2) if out at a Mall.... and you need to nurse, then go to a clothing store, and go into the dressing stall to nurse your baby. That's what I did. No need to go into a "bathroom" to do it. Or for me, I would go back to my car and breastfeed.
3) ALWAYS nurse right before you are going out with baby... then "time" your outing & your return home- so that you can feed him by the time he needs his next feeding... at home. Or you nurse baby in the car, on the go... but you should not rush a baby... or they will not be happy. Nursing as you know... can take anywhere from 20 minutes to 45 minutes... depending on the baby.
4) If you have people over at your house... BECAUSE your baby is a newborn... you MUST make sure they are NOT "sick" or even suspecting to be sick, that they wash their hands, and do NOT touch baby on the face or hands....
In some cultures, they do not take out a newborn outside the house for 3 months. You MUST ask your Pediatrician what his/her recommendation is... it is because a newborn does not have a mature immune system yet...
5) If using a bottle... you should not use it to "replace" a feeding... but just as a supplement as needed, especially in the beginning. But each woman is different on that. So check with your Pediatrician. Some say that you need to wait 4-weeks before doing that.
6) Keep in mind.. that at this young age, you need to build up your milk supply AND your newborn baby needs to get used to nursing... and they must be fed on demand... NOT according to a schedule.. that is why, it is hard to predict "when" a baby will need to nurse next. MANY times, a baby will need to "cluster feed" too, which is normal, and this means they will nurse even every single hour... especially during growth spurts.
7) If guests are over at your house and you/baby needs to nurse.. then do so. You can't make a baby "wait"... their feeding comes first. You just excuse yourself and go into another room to nurse, or you nurse right there... and some people don't mind seeing a woman nurse. I would not give your baby a bottle, in place of nursing, just because you have company over. A baby needs to nurse, and your boobs NEED to supply milk... it is a supply & demand thing...
8) I recommend the book "What to Expect The First Year"... you can find it anywhere.
For me, if my baby were only 8 days old, (and I have 2 kids), I would not go out socializing or for long periods, or have a lot of people over at the house. If I went out, I ALWAYS returned within 1-2 hours, so that I could nurse my baby pronto and when THEY needed to. For my first child, I never used bottles because I hated pumping. With my 2nd child, after he was 6 months old, is when I introduced and used bottles, because I had to supplement him and he had a GINORMOUS appetite despite my ample milk, he'd drink me dry. That is what I did. ASK your Pediatrician...
These are just my opinions/suggestions... every woman/situation is different. But yes, I would get exhausted breastfeeding too... and I'm sure most woman do.
All the best,
Susan