When to Share the News of Pregnancy???

In February I miscarried in the second month and was very traumatic. I had told all close family and friends. Then I had to tell them all that I had miscarried. Not fun. In March I got pregnant again found out the very end of march or the very beginning of April. My OB had me come in and put me on progesterone because my levels were on the low end of normal and then with what we had been through said that we should tell only close family and wait until after the first trimester to tell everyone else. I then told everyone we knew. I am now 20 weeks and finding out what we are having today if this child cooperates.
Congratulations and Best of Luck!!!

K.,

Congratulations!!!! The usual timeframe is when you are starting your 2nd trimester- so at least 12 weeks. Your chances for miscarriage go WAY down after 12 weeks. You would most likely be safe to tell the family about 13 weeks. I wish you the best with your pregnancy!

M

We always shared the news immediately. (I can't keep a secret for the life of me!)

I was a nurse so I told my co-workers/boss immediately because there were some things that I could no longer safely do at work (handle certain medications, etc.)

Lots of people will treat you special/dote on you after finding out you're pregnant...if you like to be treated like this, why wait 3 months!? :-) If you don't like to be the center of attention, then wait.

By the way--Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!

Hi K.
With my first I waited until 12 weeks.
With this one (currently 27 weeks preggers) I told family straight away with the excitement.
I told at work at 10 weeks to my boss and 12 weeks to the team.
Just inform your prinicipal. You will also inform HR .
Good luck and enjoy
B. k

Congratulation for the big news. Don't tell any body now, not after you finish your first trimester which is 3 months or roughly 13 weeks as you need to avoid stress , excitation visitors , invitations and all this staff , also like K. told you, you have high risk for miscarriage during this period, try to rest as much as you can avoid travel , home work walking for long time or standing and if your work require you to do that you may tell your principal now to make work less dangerous for you or make you some modification. you also may need to tell him as you may need to schedule prenatal care visit in work time. good luck and take care

My husband and I decided to wait to tell people until the 10th week. We would have waited until 14 if we could, but my husband is in the Army and had been scheduled to leave for training before we knew about the pregnancy. We had a sister in law who lost her child when she was 36 weeks pregnant, and loosing our nephew was devastating to the whole family. However, it did ease my mind that we had heard our son's heartbeat before we had shared the good news with everyone. According to our ob-gyn, once you hear the baby's heartbeat the risk of miscarriage is extremely low. I can't remember the actual percent that he gave, but I think it was less than 3% (don't quote me on that though!). On the other hand, my best friend told people just about the moment she found out, so whatever you are comfortable with is the right decision.

As for telling your employer, You should wait until your second trimester. You don't want to say anything too early and you don't want to say anything too late. Plus, you are going to be starting the school year soon so if you say something too soon it could be an unwanted distraction from getting started.

We told our parents at 20 weeks and everyone else at 21-22 weeks (I started showing in clothes at about 23 weeks). I didn't really see the need to endure the constant 'how are you feeling, yes I know it's meant nicely) for any longer than necessary. We also waited until after the amniocentesis results and as long as we could in case of a miscarriage.

Usually a person or couple will wait to tell until the 12 week mark if they are nervous about the possibility of the pregnancy not lasting (sorry if that sounds negative). I think that if that is your reason for not saying anything that you should consider whether the ppl that you are waiting to tell would be ppl that will be there for you emotionally if God forbid something ever happened. Would these ppl find out that you suffered a horrible loss? I am truly not trying to sound negative but just pointing out the reason that ppl usually wait to tell. I say that you share the fantastic news with everyone and let them help to celebrate this awesome time with you
Congratulations

Congratulations!

My husband gets 4 weeks paternity leave (I know, I'm incredibly lucky), but in order to receive it his employer requires a certain form to be signed by the doctor by a certain point in the pregnancy. It's very common for people to wait until the 2nd trimester to share their news, but I'd check with your employer to find out what their policy is. You don't want to get caught not giving them the required notice.

Good luck! Go celebrate!

I tell family first. Then wait a few weeks to tell close friends. Then as long as you don't need work exemptions tell your job last. Usually work is told around the third month.

Well i'll think to wait till your 3m to tell on people, friends and family when i was pregnant for the frist time it endit been a d&c at 3m the baby was dead after me telling everybody!!! It was hard to give the news that i have lost my baby, anything could happen during the frist 3m so way you pass that time frame btw congrats on your new baby !!

From experience It's what you feel is right. And 12 -14 weeks is a for sure on everything.

My Gynae had told me I would not be able to fall pregnant without medical intervention and I worked for a GP where I routinely carried out the pregnancy tests on his patients. One morning I was bored and decided to "practice" by doing a pregnancy test on myself. Much to everybody's surprise it was positive! Obviously my boss (the GP) immediately took blood to confirm the pregnancy so he knew before everyone! I told everybody as soon as the pregnancy was confirmed as I considered it a miracle! With my second child, I waited 3 months. There's no "right time", however (sadly) most miscarriages happen in the first trimester, so many mothers wait until the first trimester is behind them to tell everyone. It also depends on your health, if you have severe "morning sickness" co-workers might be more understanding and supportive if they know you are sick due to pregnancy! Also, as a teacher, you need to give the school ample time to arrange for a suitable replacement during your maternity leave. God bless! :)

Its really a personal choice of when to tell. I told everyone with in weeks of finding out but many people wait until they are 12 weeks since the chance of miscarriage is very low at that point. In my opinion I felt that if something horrible like that were to happen I would want my family and friends there for support and really didn't see a reason to wait that long. I was also very excited and Im horrible at holding in exciting news!! We told immediate family in person the first time we saw them after finding out and once they were in on the excitement we called everyone else! With work you can wait until your starting to show if you want! I started showing around 3 months which I hear is kind of early. Congrats on your big news!!!! Your in for a fun ride!!!

People are going to have all sorts of answers. I'll tell you what we did here. I have been pregnant 4 times. I have 3 children and had one miscarriage at 8wks along between my second and third children. With my 3 children we told everyone the same day we got the positive home pregnancy test. With the one we miscarried we chose to wait. We told everyone the day before a big group trip to Disneyland. We decided we didn't want to wait any longer and did not want to keep the secret as I could not ride all the rides I would normally because I was pregnant. I miscarried the following week. It was absurdly akward as people heard about the miscarriage that didn't even know I was pregnant yet, some people heard about the pregnancy but not the miscarriage so there was the uncomfortable moment when we had to tell them. It was a good month before the news got squared away.
We have agreed that if we get pregnant again we will again tell the second we know. We've become a little superstitious. The only one we waited is the one we lost.

Congrats! Your call on when to share the news. I know I wanted to wait until I was 12 weeks but my DH was such a blabber mouth with all three of my kids so people knew fairly early...I breathed a sigh of relief when I passed the first trimester with all three...Good luck and Best wishes.

I would tell them however soon you want. Even if you miscarried (which you won't, not trying to jinx ya) you would need family support. Tell your principal as soon as you want and take a doctor's confirmation (that's what the Marines wanted when I found out I was pregnant)