Why Do People Ask Pregnant Women Such DUMB Questions??? LOL

After my first child, I swore that with the next, I would tell everyone my due date was 4 weeks later than it actually was...just to avoid all the calls! Now I am due anytime with my 3rd...and it is like people don't even care...HA!

Just tell everyone that you are nervous about labor and all the calls are making you more nervous...so please stop calling, and you promise you will call as soon as anything happens. They mean well!

send out a mass text saying...

"just went to the doctor, looks like it might be a little while longer..... will let you all know when anything changes, until then, I will be resting peacefully with my ringer off"

You have a choice. You can stay busy, be happy, and sail through this last 4 weeks, pain and all, or you can sit around and look for reasons to concentrate on the discomforts.

Pregnancy isn't an excuse to be nasty. You will survive this. Billions of people have done it before you. I've done it 4 times. Yeah, I know it's tiring. But get real. They are just excited for you. By the way, there are signs of labor that can suggest pre-labor. Maybe they are just hoping to hear something more like you are losing your plug, getting more braxton hicks, or lower back aches. Why not try being nice and just chatting with them or say "I WISH".

Your friends aren't being stupid. They are happy. Take a chill pill and try and be happy with them.

if they are calling your cell phone change your vm answering service to say something like " if you are calling to ask if I'm in labor, if my water broke or if I'm having contractions the answer is NO" if you would like to talk to me about anything other than me being pregnant please leave a message and I'll get back to you soon. Thanks and have a great day.

C.,
They are calling to check on you. The comments are their way of making sure you're OK. Be grateful, no annoyed!

I know what you mean, it can be annoying but these friends/family members are just happy and excited for you is all. Be happy that you're in that type of environment and not in one in which they ignore you or question your sanity for having a child.

When I got pregnant with #5 I got so tired of people saying 'don't you know what causes that?' that I swore the next person that asked me that I was going to say "yes SEX and I LOVE SEX'. Well I did give that answer, too bad the next person that asked me was a lady at church. Needless to say, I was never asked that again.

So just try to ignore those comments, I know you are more than ready to have this baby & it's almost like someone staring at a pot of water & asking 'is it boiling yet'. Well NO and you asking isn't going to make the water any hotter any quicker. SO BACK OFF, don't say that, LOL. You can change your message on your voice mail to something like..nope not had the baby yet but I'll let you know when she/he is here, so if you have anything else to ask, please leave a message. Then not answer your phone, let it screen your calls.

Best of luck to you!!

Stop answering the phone. Let it go to voice mail. Call them back later, if you want to.

Deep breaths, Crabby! It will all be over soon. :D

Your not crabby at all.....LOL!! wink wink!! Its natural for them to call. They love you and they are excited for you. All I can say at your stage is just take a breath and it will all be over soon!

I am in the exact same position as you! I already have a four year old who requires most of my attention and he doesnt care that I am pregnant and tired : ) People for the past couple weeks have been calling everyday to see "how things are going" and if I saw something like good I am about to take do whatever it is like mop or take my son swimming then I get the "are you trying to make this baby come out? You shouldnt be doing anything"
I have stopped answering the phone everyday, I know they are just being concerned family but I need a break from all the questions. You should just let it go and only answer the phone when you are in a super mood so the questions wont get to you as much.
congratulations on your little one.

The last few weeks are the hardest, and the longest. And with all the anticiaption, and striving for that light at the end of the tunnel it's common to be a little short fused.
To S L M's post below, I think YOU"RE being a little nasty!
It is annoying when you're at this stage, so ready to go and you're constantly subjected to comments and silly questions. Yes everyone around is excited and anxious, but so is mom! And to repeatedly ask somone if they're in labor, is pretty ridiculous.
Hang in there, and just tell people that seriously, they'd be on the top of the list to know if something majors happening, so in the meantime there's no sense in asking you that. With four weeks to go, why would they think to be asking you that all the time anyways? Good luck, and I'd screen my phone calls too :)

haha I feel for you! I had people constantly asking me if I was having twins and if I was due soon when I was only 7mnths along! I was super sensitive about the weight gain (I had to gain extra because I had been malnurished). Also I hated being touched (I was hot and uncomfortable and I am not a touchy feely person to begin with) and having strangers hands constantly on my belly was to much! Next time someone asks you if your in labor laugh and say nah I am having so much fun with this whole pregnancy thing I think I am going to hold out for a couple more weeks so you can stop asking for a while.

Hope you feel better from venting. Sounds like you really needed that.

to be a devils advocate, when you go into labor and if things move quickly, you may not have time to call every important person. Or you might be in pain and not even care about that. Perhaps you have a phone that you could text it to a distribution list -- or someone that will be with you. If you plan to do this though, tell your people that have text ability to look for it there too in case things go too fast.

When a woman is 9 months pregnant, it kind of is startling to see (needless to say). Many women in that month don't get out much so it isn't all that common to see a woman that big. Perhaps your clothes are kind of too clingy at this time too making it look like you are ready to "pop" the seams. Try wearing tops that aren't tight if you can find a tent big enough (ha).

Pregnancy has always been known to garner looks and foolish comments and actions (like strangers wanting to reach out spontaneously to touch your tummy). They like interacting with a pregnant person and think they are helping you celebrate your pregnancy and forthcoming child. You have been graced with a healthy pregnancy. Perhaps you can try to keep the mindset of a person being full of grace, love for silly, caring mankind, and of your blessing. If that doesn't work, tack a sign on that says "Crabby new mama here, just don't ask." (Okay, that was a bad joke)

I feel for you and those questions aimed your way. Perhaps you will teach a lot of people on here about what feelings might be going on inside a pregnant mom to where they watch what they say a bit better. Perhaps you could respond kindly with "Don't worry, you'll be the FIRST to know. I want you to come see us as soon as you can." From your generous response, they might relax a bit more. You could try to say, "Back off. &^&**, are you so dumb that you don't know I would call you? But that won't go over so well for your future babysitters. :-)

To those who responded, "Just stop answering the phone," ... it could backfire on you. Them NOT being able to talk to you and ask their "dumb" questions will SURELY lead them to believe you ARE in labor and on your way to the hospital. Then you will undoubtedly send everyone into a frenzy, which could end up being worse than the incessant questions you are facing now. Trust me...I know. I had this happen to me! *sigh*

Good luck to you. I hope the next 4 weeks go quickly!!!

Stop answering your phone, stop talking to people and relax. I distinctly recall the monster within. You are right, everything and everyone seems dumb and stupid. And they are oh so trying to be helpful, in your life, excited and all the other things that you do not want. Of course while it is going on we are the only right ones and they are all nuts because we are conquering the universe. We are mothers and we will rule the world. Ok, sit back, deep breaths it will all be over soon.

I am laughing as well....not at you. Just remember being there. You need to laugh it off in a sarcastic tone. If she calls again, say (in a sweet voice) if you call me and ask me this one more time, I am never going to talk to you again. It will lighten things up and then just tell her flat out that you have 4 more weeks to go and you really don't want to have to be asked every day if you are in labor yet. It is the hormones....avoiding the phone is not a bad idea when you feel you are ready to boil. lol

I agree with Jaime, why do women, who already have kids, and know that these types of questions are annoying, ask them anyway??? Why?? Because it happened to them! They want you to be as annoyed as they were when they were 9 months pregnant. lol

4 weeks to go....get ready for the daily calls about the baby sleeping, eating and pooping...those are the questions that are just around the corner. That will be just as annoying when you are up 2-3 times a night and have not gotten any sleep! lol

LOL I am not laughing at you.... okay I am... but in a good way. Crabby pregnant woman. Girl, I know it is annoying. But people are so excited and anxious for the baby's arrival.
As far as your friend, you do not want to say anything to hurt your friendship. Just tell her she will be one of the first to know when your water breaks or labor starts. Well heck, you don't want to hurt anyone's feelings for that matter. And if they don't get an answer from you on the phone, they will be even more anxious thinking you are on the floor in terrible labor pains that you can't make it to the phone. ha/ha....
But anyway, you will just have to endure these phone calls until baby make his/her arrival. It's annoying... but they are genuinely concerned and you should be thankful to have such a great friend and family members.
Congrats on baby!

Don't you think they are just being nice? That this is their way of making coversation and showing that they care about you because it is THE thing that is happening for you in your life right now? I know how uncomfortable you are right now because I've been there twice myself, but this is just thier way of showing that they care and that they are there for you. I'm sure that once you have had your baby and are looking back at the whole pregnancy, you'll probably want to cry when you realize how much love and support you have received from the people in your life. You are very lucky to have to have family and friends who love you as they do. And as far as how to answers these questions? Just be gracious even though you are not feeling it right now.

Wishing you a wonderful (and speedy) delivery.

This only makes me chuckle now because I am done having my babies. But OH MY LORD it will drive a woman mad! My friend and I were both waiting on job offers and while we were waiting, every day we would just look at each other and simply say "Are you still pregnant?" Because it was the same question every day with the same shock that the offers had not come through. Everyone is just exctied for you to have your baby...and we all as these questions to pregnant people. I had 3 and I still do it. It's annoying because the one who is pregnant doesn't want to be pregnant anymore and wants to be done with it all, but it will be over soon and then in 3 years you'll be wishing for that moment again :o). Just not the terrible two's again! It will be okay mama!! Baby will be here soon enough! Good luck!

I think you have a lot of people who love you and care for you. Remember this is just temporary. We all get impatient and tired in the end. Hang in there and try to remember the good things and people around you.

Wait till the baby comes - there's a whole new list of stupid questions and UNSOLICITED advice!

"Don't you know you're the first one I'll call when I go into labor ... unless you keep asking?"

:)

Seriously, though, I don't think you can stop it. I just settled for being content to complain about it for those few weeks. "You're still here? (at work)" Ummmm ... you see me in front of you, right? Drove me crazy!!!

Hang in there. It'll be over soon and like someone else said, you'll get a whole bunch of new parenting advice that will drive you just as crazy. :)

Congratulations!