Work Stress Help

So you were promoted then demoted?

Not great. I'd start looking for another position.

I also wouldn't want to be working for the same company (even different locales) as your fiancé. The thing with that is, when you go home at the end of the day, too easy to talk about work.

Usually - these kinds of things don't get better. Don't feel down, just be proactive. That will make you feel better.

Don't dwell on it either. It could be favoritism. Either way, it is what it is. Spend the time instead putting yourself out there and being positive for you.

My suggestion would be if you feel that way spruce up your resume and try to find another job. Do go telling anyone you are doing that or it might not be leaving on your timeline but theirs. If they are playing favorites there is not much you can do saying something might make things worse.

Don't say anything.

The co-worker who has the aunt as a supervisor is being moved to another center. I know you are disappointed that she was promoted and you were not, but in the long term, her moving out of your center might actually help the situation so you might give things a little time to settle out.

Of course you can polish up your resume and look for a new job.

Either way, you can also increase your efforts to manage your stress or at least leave it at work. Do you have time to switch gears between work and home? After you pull in the driveway from work, can you go for a 15 minute walk before you walk into the house (force yourself to let go of work during the walk)? Or can you go straight to your room and meditate for 10 minutes before joining your family (of course you have to explain it to them so that everyone leaves you alone for 10 minutes)? I have one friend who comes home from work, does a quick change of clothes, and goes for a 30 minute run immediately after work (that doesn't work for me because I don't have 30 minutes but maybe it would work for you). Or take clothes with you and stop at a gym on the way home from work. You just need something to make a break in the day that will allow you to leave work at work.

Good luck.

Was the promotion suppose to be temporary?
Was a family member given your job?
What was your job performance like?
Did your duties change a lot after being promoted and are you still doing them after your demotion?
What about your pay/benefits? Did they go up and back down again?

It might be time to move on so get your resume up to date and start looking elsewhere.

Saying something isn't going to help.

Get your resume together and put together a plan to find another job. Let THAT be the springboard you need to help you push forward. Give yourself small deadlines within a 6 month period. That way you won't feel discouraged. DO YOUR JOB and do it well while you are at your company. Ignore the disparities. Just do your job. When you are no longer caring about this co-worker's position, your life will get better.

I don't know if you should say anything because I don't know their reasons for demoting you. But I would start actively looking for another job starting today. You will be happier in a different environment. Good luck.