I start each day with a prayer =)
I married an incredible man who jumps in with both feet to help, without imposing expectations on me or complaining. We tag team everything.
I cling to my faith in a God who provides for our needs, including that of a sitter who would love my son like family, commit herself to his education (both academic, spiritual and moral) and be affordable! ... Including for mercy and grace for my son to benefit from his relationships rather than be traumatized by the times I'm not with him. And I trust that He will lead me to the opportunities that will be best for our family by closing / opening doors as needed. He has always been faithful, even when it has been hard, so I know my trust is not misplaced.
I focus on the positive by counting my blessings daily - for a job that helps to pay all of our bills, for a son who is happy and well-adjusted, for colleagues who are friends and fellow working moms, for bosses who value and respect family and for my own family who is supportive and helpful.
I make sure to take care of myself by exercising,even when I don't feel like it, because it recharges me, gives me energy and improves my attitude
I hung in there when it seemed impossible and intolerable - I waited it out until I had the chance to see my family fall into a blessed rhythm that actually worked to all of our benefit. It can be done.
Thank you so much for your post. I know moms in both situations can feel judged, and I have been feeling this lately. Then when I consider all of the above, I feel confident, thankful and blessed by our life. Thank you for your support and blessings!
God bless you and your family, too. =)