WOW! Why Are Girls So Whiney???

Whining is like tantrums. You never give them what they are whining about and you do not listen to it.
You tell them over and over. (just pick one per transaction)

"I cannot understand whining."

"I need you to use your regular voice."

"I do not hear whining."

"Go to your room and find your regular voice. "

"If you girls cannot talk without whining, you are not allowed to play with each other. "

They whine the same reason we moms here on mamapedia vent on here.

We are frustrated. We are tired. We are at the end of our ropes. We feel like people are not listening to what we need or want. We feel powerless..

The fact that your friend's boys do not whine is totally unrelated to their sex. Some kids whine and some don't. In addition to temperament how the family is managed is a part of the cause. Is home warm, supportive, without drama on adults part and gives a sense of security? Do you "allow" whining by not having any consequences when they whine?

I agree with Laurie A's description of how to stop whining. You have to do this every time they whine so that they know what to expect. If you give in to the whining some of the time they will continue to whine in hopes you'll give in this time, too.

Do not let them play together when they're not getting along. This is a natural consequence to whining. I suggest putting them in separate rooms and consistently enforce this.

It's not easy to discipline but it's absolutely necessary if you want to stop the whining and drama.

I have a daughter and son.
My friends also have sons and daughters.
So, in answering this and per what I know and see with that in mind: well, the girls are more emotional. I wouldn't say 'whiney'.. but they are much more emphatic.
Grown up women, are too.
More so than grown up, Men.
We are just more, emphatic and expressive and vent more. In more verbal ways.

But, whining is also a habit.
I tell my kids, both of them... that it is a choice. Not a have to. Not a matter of that is the only way they can talk.
And it is irritating.
I tell them, I can do that too... to them.
And they both get horrified!
So you just gotta teach them, not to whine!

Or, video them.
And play it back to them.
They don't know, how it sounds as a bystander.
Eeeek!

Try the book "Siblings Without Rivalry"...

My boy and girl both whine an incredible amt.... i think we let them for so long they think it is ok, i cannot break them of it! ggrrrrr.. whine whine fight whine, sigh...

My soon to be 5 yr old is getting more & more into whinnig to try & get her way,attention, point across & it will not be tolerated she has yet to learn that we will not listen to her,we will not give her what she is whinnig about & it isn't going to be accepted no matter what.We explain to her the difference between whinning,upset about hurt feelings,hurt physically for example stubbing your toe,someone passing away these are all feelings they are all different & they don't all include whinnig I do understand where she is coming from though she has an older brother she has a younger sister she is the middle child & mommy is pregnant with a girl.This has gradually occured before my pregnancy lil sis has been getting more attention as babies do & she has to be closely talked to & listened to (she has delayed speech)it is exhausting at times but as long as we stick to our plan to stomp it & teach her how to properly handle feelings it will get better,she is my daughter & I remember being a hand full growing up attitude especially,I told her the other night while I was rinsing dishes she came in & was telling me how to do them she was bobbing her head hand on hip I tried not to laugh kept my compsure but when she was done I told her keep bopping your head like that it will fall off your shoulders.I also know & can see she is picking up things from preschool she isn't there but 3 days a week for 2 hrs her attitude & the things she tells me about the others my child knows better not to be rude to another friend.