Hi Everyone, I have a few questions that I wanted to see if anyone has any input on....
My son just turned 11 months....he is in daycare all day and lately when we bring him home he's been a bear....he's been very whiney and when it comes to dinner time, it's become almost unpleasant....he starts eating and then comes the whining and sometimes full blown crying...we're not sure why?? we start offering him different things to see if he wants them and he just pushes everything away....we offer water thinking he's thirsty...that's not it either...he doesn't end up eating much b/c we end up taking him out of the highchair....this has only been recent...
he's also been very clingy...he's fine with my husband until I come home....and then it's like he's attached at my hip...my husband also feels like our son doesn't like him any more...could it be separation anxiety? but why now?
any thoughts or suggestions would be great :)
have you ever just showed up at daycare... see what's going on.. are they forcing him to eat?? or is someone yelling at him... i would just show up say around lunch time.. and just check it out.. see what's going on.. maybe he isn't happy there.. you never know..
This is very normal, but tough. My guess is that he's exhausted AND that they have kept him pretty well fed during the day. Most places do a 5 o'clock snack/feeding, so he may be eating right before you pick him up. 5 o'clock is called the "witching hour" for a reason-- most kids are cranky then, and if he's been in daycare all day, he's probably extra tired and stimulated. My recommendation would be to make sure that he gets your undivided attention for a 1/2 hour as soon as you get home-- get down on the floor and play with him. If that means that he gets a quick dinner and you and your husband eat after he goes to bed, so be it. He needs some concentrated, quality time to reconnect with you-- not the easiest thing when you first walk in the door, I know. Good luck!
Its a hard age sweety. They are learning about there world and trying to find what they have control over.
The food thing could be because he is jsut plain tired from a hard day of playing at "school", or (What I belive is the case) that he ahs discovered that he has control over if he will and will not eat and is just teasting it out. Keep offering him food, have him sit with you, but try not to push him to eat , trust me if he is hungery he will eat.
Its hard being the odd perant out. My daughter is her daddy baby. She love me and we spend all day togather, but the moment my husband come home from work, she is glued to his side. I wont lie from time to time it dose husrt my feelings a bit. I woudl reasure your husband that this si jsut separation anxiety. The the baby dose love and need him and so do you. Also remind him as he gets older he will want to spent time with dad doing more "boy" things.
Everything will work its self out sweety. You and your Hubby jsut hang tough
Blessings
S.
My twins did this right around 11 months as well. Our doctor said part of it was separation anxiety. The fussy in the highchair part was just a phase for us that lasted about a month. I wish I knew what it was, but I just had to get through it, dinner time became so stressful I started feeding them an hour before we ate, which seemed to help. I hope this helps, good luck!
My guess about the evening fussiness is that he might be tired or overstimulated from his day. Is he napping well at daycare?
As for the separation anxiety - totally normal. It's developmental and right around 1 year is a standard time for it to really kick in. And although it's hard for your husband, he shouldn't take it personally. In a few months he will decide he's daddy's boy and he will ignore you for a while. And then he'll switch back. I'm not sure why this happens, but it's a phase.
Hi, J.:
There is a lot of stimulation for a baby.
Do you think you expect alot from a baby to be in
daycare all day long and not react.
Just a thought.
Good luck.
D.
It sounds like he could be tired. What time is his afternoon nap?
