S.D.
it is probably the age and not into the family visiting right now. Is there some deal that you can make him.......like if he goes, you can look up some things that intrest him and try to make the trip a little bit about what he would like to do now that he is older.??? I think he should go and as life moves forward teach him that we still respect and see family...but it can be altered to also find fun things for him to do.