V.T.
Hi K.,
I sympathise with your situation. For us, it happened during my daughter's 15th year. I came up with a theory. I have no idea how valid it is; but it makes me feel better anyway! I believe kids (especially teenage girls) have a true struggle to find who they are and where they belong today. It's a lot different than when we were growing up. So a lot more "testing", pushing the limits kinds of things go on. I think they're meanest to us because they know that no matter how awful, and sometimes downright hateful, they act, they KNOW that we will still love them. So they save the "good stuff" for us. My daughter had a terrible 15th year. Finding the right group of friends is a major issue in their lives. Peer pressure is just unbelievable. My daughter told me that kids go on dates and actually think of giving the guy "oral satisfaction", just like they think of a good night kiss! No wonder my daughter doesn't date. She had a long term boyfriend (her only boyfriend, or date for that matter) and he dumped her. The pain for her was nearly unbearable, and I cried for her as much as she did for herself. Kids know that we as moms feel their pain. Sometimes it just overflows for reasons we can't even imagine, and it spills over to the one person your daughter knows can handle it and still love her--YOU! so hang in there K.. She will become human again soon. And before you know it, you'll be crying because she's leaving the nest. It's so unfair if you think about it: we have to endure the worst of times with our kids, yet when they become pleasant to be around, they leave!
You are not alone!
V.