Hello Ladies,
My son has been doing #2 on the carpet and thinks it is paint!!! This started a few months ago and then stopped so we did not pay too much attention. Now is back!! He's done over and over again for the last three days, and it is really drving us crazy, the cleaning and the smell and everythinglse that goes along with poop. He is not potty trained yet, however he does not like the diper too much, so we've been using regular undeware when he is at home, but there is always an accident.
Has this happened to any of you??? How can we make him understand poop is not paint and belongs in the toilet???
Thanks!!!!
First of all, put the diaper back on him! If he skwalks about it, he is old enough to understand that if he cant put the poo in the potty where big boys put it then he has to put it in the diaper where babies put it! it's that simple. You are the parent and make all of the rules, and he is the child and obeys the rules or has the consequences. "Diaper...no diaper"??? not really a tough one.
Here is what I did to stop this in its tracks...you can blast me if you think it was too harsh, but I could not stand the thought of having to clean it up again...my son would "paint" the whole room...walls, headboard, comforter, carpet, himself...oh it was horrifying.
The first time I got really upset and he cried and I thought well that would work...but on the second time. When I cleaned him up instead of putting him in a warm bath...I gave him a cool shower...NOT COLD...just cooler than he was used to (about 90 degrees as apposed to 99 degrees)and a SHOWER, because he didn't like showers, he LOVED baths.
He hated taking a shower and that it wasn't a comfortable temperature made an impression, because he never did it again.
It was the brushing it out of his teeth that would make me gag and scrubbing it out of his ears and hair...oh, it was BAD!!
Oh, on the potty training thing...I didn't even go there until after my daughter came and he was adjusted to her...all my friends told me he would just regress after the baby came, I am so glad I waited.
Sending you a great big hug!! {{{{{HUG}}}}}
Take your son regularly to sit on the potty. If he is at all regular about the time of day that he poops, sooner or later he will accidently poop in the potty. When there is a poop on the carpet, don't act like it is nasty and stinks etc. I don't mean cheer him on, but pick up the poop and have him see you put it in the toilet. You will have to tell him a hundred times that poop goes in the potty. At his age, children are very sensory oriented. They want to experience things with all their senses. Which is why babies put things in their mouth--they already saw it, then they want to taste it. So your son is feeling of it and smearing it because he is learning. Do not scold him or tell him he is bad or nasty. He is being proud of what he made. Use that as an impetus to make the poop in the potty. Scolding him for making something nasty will make it difficult to later say he is doing a good job when he learns to poop on the potty. (It could be worse,he could be rubbing it on all the rungs of the baby bed and wall. I know.:)
It sounds like your son is ready to be potty trained ....ASAP! I would recommend that you use plastic lined pants. You can purchase them in a 2 pack at Target. Once he gets the idea then you can switch to training pants that are thicker then regular underwear. Once there are no more accidents then go to underwear. I would do a lot of praise and awards when he uses the potty. Once he has accomplish peeing sitting and you start trainning to stand up you can buy colorful pellets or use fruit loops and tell him he has target practice. The pooping on the carpet is definitely a no-no! If you have any patiences I would ignore it and clean it without giving him any attention. Maybe letting him put the poop in the toliet and flushing. I know that is a lot easier said then done. If discipline is the way you want to go then take something that he loves dearly each time he does it. Good luck!!!!!!!
My son did that as well. I do not know why little boys like to do this. I would have to watch my son closely when we started to potty train him. As he loved to go hide in a room to poop on the floor. You might try every time he poop's in the potty he gets a treat and if he poops on the floor he looses a favorite toy or sits in time out. The do grow out of doing this but I think a strick structure on if they do it will help you out. Good Luck
My daughter did kinda the same thing. She didn't like to wear underwear or diapers. so at home we would just let her wear a long dress and run about. Several times she would be standing there and just poop. yay. She had no idea she wasn't supposed to . I never punished her for it though. I would simply ask her to help me clean it up and then say does poop go on the floor? No. does it go in the potty? yes. and have her put it in the potty and say goodbye. It sort of became a game for her to get it from her bum to the potty. I also made her a sticker chart and she picked her stickers and got a little prize for a certain amount of pee pees and a bigger one for a certain amount of poos. What ever way works for you just remember that your not the only one going through it and he will get past it.
Hi! I have been where you are!I am so glad that we are past that however with a 17 month old and one on the way I am sure to be there again! When we went through it we had dabbled in potty training but I hadn't taken the time and effort to really push things, then with the baby's arrival growing near I decided that I would rather not pay for diapers for 2. So I took a few days and devoted myself to the process. We bought a bunch of big boy underwear (he liked briefs to be like daddy) and I bought a plastic candy jar and filled it with jelly beans and put it in the bathroom where he could see but not reach. Every hour and a half to 2 hours we made a trip to the potty and when something happened he got to pick jelly beans out of the jar! It seems that for us it took me being willing to be consistent about it for him to get it. That helped a lot, however we still had finger painting issues occasionally every now and again and it seems that this is not unusual, just gross to us. There is however hope! They do eventually outgrow it, it just takes some time.Also, when he did it on the carpet I would make him help clean it up, he didn't seem to think that was as much fun! Good luck!
i think that you should punish him no harshly but put him in time out or take away his favorite toy for the day or like i do with problums i take away desert i will get to them eventaly he will gat it if not put him in the diper agian it will work i did for me
You say he's not potty trained....potty train him. He's ready! He obviously knows when he needs to go, so my suggestion would be to let him know (however you choose to discipline) that he has disappointed you when he goes on the carpet & reward him when he goes in the toilet. Good luck!!
my daughter (3 and a half) was doing the same thing with peeing on the carpet. she is potty trained has been for, what, 8 months? i was so upset! did't yell at her, but told her that is not where we go potty. turned out she had a UTI, and was having pain, so that is why she wasn't emptying her bladder on the potty. so we got over it, hydrating, taking her every hour, etc. but then.... she started doing it again, for fun, i guess. so then i was mad! did not yell at her, i know that does not work, but i explained in my best mommie voice that she was not to do that again because it is germy and bad for the other members of the family and friends, not to mention the carpet. she got it, which i was happy about because she can be defiant. i know a 2 1/2 year old communicates not quite the same as a 3 1/2 year old, but explain the germs, the stink (ick!) all of it is not good for family and friends, and just keep on keepin' on. tea tree oil is a great deoderizer, in the meantime :)
