Uhg. Go the the mental health center and ask if you can have an Adult ADHD evaluation. There is no longer an ADD diagnosis, it is all ADHD of various types, and it is just not true that you cannot hold still ever. Some people have the H, and can stay still sometimes, some less than others, but there are gross missunderstandings about what ADHD is, and isn't and there is no one thing that people always do or never do that either rule it in or out. It is a disorder of various types (inatentive type, hyperactive type, and combined type) and degree, some are mild, some moderate, some severe. Even if you are inatentive, and have trouble with organizational issues, this does not mean that you will have total abscence of all skill in that area. That you can concentrate on a book, only means that you either have the ability to hyper focus, or that process, reading, is not effected by the basic brain dysfunction. Like any other biological process that is impaired, some days, and some functions are better in some people than others.
Of those people with ADHD, some are very intellegent, and some not so much and everywhere in between. Some have one or more comorbid conditions that are very commonly assoicated with ADHD, and some do not. Some have trouble with speech and langaguge, some do not., and many have difficulty with visual motor and visual processing.
It is very common for ADHD to run in families, so it would make sense that you are seeking evaluation for your daughter as well.
Brain cells do not touch, there is a tiny space called a synapes between each one. When we have thoughts, our thoughts are carried over the brain cells by electrical impulses. When the impulses reach the synapes, our bodies make electrochemicals called neurotransmitters to carry the thought over the space to the next brain cell. It happends hundreds of millions of times a second. If your body does not make enough neurotransmitters or the neurotransmittler receptor is damaged, you have ADHD. Some people use movement to stimulate thought process, some just lose track. Some have more issues with controling impulses, they cannot seem to interrupt an impulse or activate what they know about right and wrong. Most have difficulty with something called executive function.
When you get your daughter evaluated, you need to find a way to own a private evaluation. Do not settle for a visit to a pediatrician, you need either a developmental pediatrician or a psychiatrist/ neuropsychological evaluation combination. It is possible to diagnose this young, contrary to popular misconception, but you do need a full evaluation from a qualified professional. Additionally, contact your local school district, it is their responsiblity to identify all children over the age of 3 with disablities who live in their boundaries. You should try very hard to own your own evlauation to keep them honest, especailly by the time she is school aged.
Look up CHADD, suscribe to additudes magazine, read anything by Dr. Russel Barkley ro Dr. Mel Levine, and log on to www.wrightslaw.com to learn about ADHD and school advocacy.
Good luck!
M.