Anyone Else in Their Mid to Late 30'S and Pregnant with Number 2? - Chicago,IL

Had my first child at 31 and my second at 34. I had more energy the second time around because I ate well and exercised throughout the whole pregnancy. Everyone is different. You aren't old - just preggo!

Congrats!!

Hi
I am pregnant and will be 37yrs when I give birth in Oct with my second.
We also want three so I will be very close to 40 by then.
I am also very tired but on the same note I am glad that I waited until this age to have my kids.
I got my collage degree,travelled and partied hard before I settled down.
Also I can see the advantages of having a family young,some of my friends who are in their 40s have grown kids in college etc and are having a great time now.
Each of us take a different life path.
Good luck with the new baby and try to get as much sleep as you can before the arrival.
B. k

37 and on my third pregnancy. My husband is 57 and wants more kids.

I don't think you should be resentful about your mothers comments because it is true...you are not in your twenties anymore and this was a conscious decision you chose to make. I would take it with a grain of salt!

I am gonna make you feel young! Because...you ARE!! :-) I won't go into the details, but I have 3 kids, I had my oldest daughter at 21 years of age, my son at 24 and now my littlest daughter at age 43! So... basically, my life has been full of kids! I've been on both realms of the spectrum here, so from experience, no matter what your age, your gonna feel tired, your pregnant!! Honestly, my easiest pregnancy was at age 43! I kid you not, it was a breeeeze. So, don't let age ever stop you from having children or anything else in your life. It is truly just a number. Take care of yourself & do what you feel is right for YOU and your family. :-)

We also did grad school and had careers started before having kids. We had our 2nd a year and a half ago...I was 38. It all has gone great and we have 2 wonderful kids! I do sometimes feel like I have less energy than younger moms, but I don't know if that is actually true. I also have confidence and a LOT of great life experience. And we are very settled financially and can afford to travel and do things with our kids that I could never have afforded in my 20s. Anyway, I just wanted to say I know how you feel and there are pluses and minuses to both ways of doing it. Hang in there with your pregnancy and congrats!

I had my 2nd one at 35 (1st one at 20) & I was very active the entire pregnancy. My daughter plays soccer out of town so I was on the go every weekend out of town plus busy with her during the week with her activities. I know one major difference for me is the weight did not fall off as quickly as i would like but I take the blame for that because you know as they say "we are not in our 20's anymore" ... lol ... You're not old ... just older than a 20 year old :) ... Good luck.

Nope....I was 38 when my last was born :) My DH is 50. Timing is everything. I didn't meet my man and get married till early thirties...It is what is...Tough and as long as you are healthy you gotta do what's best for you. If you want more kids so be it. :) I will be celebrating a milestone next year and done now at three kids...Blessings and Congrats on your new baby to be.

I had my first at 33 and my second almost 2 years ago at 37. (I also did a doctorate and married late.) I was much more tired with the second pregnancy, though I'm not sure if it was age or just having a 3 year-old to deal with. My second pregnancy was much harder physically on my body as well. I've pretty much decided to be happy with my 2 now that I'm nearing 40 and starting to already have some significant arthritis. Every pregnancy is different and every person is different. Best of luck!

I will be 37 when I deliver my thrid in October. I was 22 with the first and 30 with my second.

I'm 34 years old and will be 35 when I give birth to my 2nd child. I'm due in August by the way. I'm tired all the time, but I also have an almost 5 year old to take care of, a husband, cooking, cleaning, driving my child around to his various activities...blah, blah, blah!!! Yeah, you have good reason to be tired! :) As long as you are healthy and up to have that many kids I say go for it, but do know that it won't be such an easy road with your hands so full! :)

I celebrated my 30th birthday with an 8 month old and we're hoping to have another in the near future... meaning I'll be 32/33 and pregnant with #2. My husband will be 38. Yikes. Oh well. We got married later for many of the same reasons... graduate work, careers, etc.

Younger mothers may have more energy, but I like to think that us "older moms" have more maturity and perspective. I watch my SIL (had her first at 19 and two more after that) really struggle with her identity, finances and other things that we in place for us both by the time we got married and had children.

Best wishes and ignore your mom's comments. When our mother's had us, it was considered "taboo" to get preggers after 30. Someone gave my mother a coffee mug on her 30th birthday (pregnant with my youngest sister at the time) that said "I'd rather be 30 than pregnant!"

Go to Seattle for a few hours and well you will NOT feel alone! So many women otu there don't even start having kids until 35...lol work for family later. You are not alone by any means! Get a heavy duty, easy to use coffee maker and enjoy the precious gifts.

We, too, had a 1-month old by our first anniversary. My oldest just turned 4, and his siblings are 2-1/2 and 6wks. I was just shy of 37 when my first was born; because of my age, we had our kids close together...THAT'S what really wears you out. Being pregnant with young children, particularly if they're active like my boys, is tiring. This last pregnancy was particularly exhausting, and I attributed it to working full time and having active little ones. Good luck!

I gave birth to my first at age 37, and my second at age 39. Get this... my mother said the EXACT same thing!!! Literally, "You're not a woman in your 20's anymore." Actually, she still says stuff like that! Yeah, thanks, Mom. :)

I think I might be a little more tired than I would have been ten years ago, but, so what? I also was able to get a law degree and do all kinds of fun things before having kids!

I had my 3rd at 35. (almost 36) much, much different (energy wise) than with the first 2. I had piles of energy back then (I was a teen mom) than I do now. Im definately done having babies!!! I need sleep!

We stayed DINKs for a long time... Had our first when I was 34, just had our second at age 38 (a month before turning 39). I work FT, so there were some days I felt tired from work more than pregnancy. And, with the second pregnancy, you have your first child to care for; so you can't take a nap or rest like you did with your first pregnancy.

And I think it depends also on how physically fit you were going into pregnancy, and how good your food quality/diet is.

I'm 27 with 3 kids and I'm EXHAUSTED... I don't see why age makes a difference. However old you are when you're pregnant is the perfect age for you!! :) CONGRATS!!

I've been pregnant at 20/21, 23/24, 24/25, 29/30, and 33. While my last pregnancy was in fact the most exhausting, I had the most energy when I was 30. Definitely way more than at 20! I'm sure age does play a factor, but it's certainly not the only one!

I was pushing 34 when I had my second baby. I was 24 with the first one.
I got extremely tired during both pregnancies, but I have to say that my second baby was SO amazing. Now, I'd gone years between children, but I felt such an overwhelming sense of new-ness. I was surprised how much energy I had after the baby was born. I used to sing, "There's a baby in the house! There's a baby in the house!"
I loved everything about it. All my daughter's life I was told I could never have another baby and frankly, he was a complete surprise. I was over the moon happy and so energized with the joy of my blessing.
Pregnancy was exhausting, plus I was critically ill through most of it, but when my son was born, I was off to the races and so happy. I really did feel such a sense of renewal and I can't explain it.
I think you'll be just fine. Don't be offended by your mom's words. It's true. You're not in your 20's anymore.
That doesn't mean anything....trust me.

I wouldn't change having a baby in my 30's for anything.
My son is 15 and still at home. I treasure it. At 48, I'm nowhere near ready not to have a kid in my house. God knew what he was doing.

You'll be just fine.

Best wishes.