J.R.
L.,
I am in North Carolina, where I have to be separated for a year before I can get a divorce. My year is almost up, but I have been trying to get my kids to live with me the whole time, out of court. I have 4 kids, ages 18,14,10, and 9. I really miss having my kids. Their dad has brianwashed them to believing that I am not a good mom, although, I too did everything for them. Their dad is also controlling. I was married for almost 18 years to him. When I left, he didn't let me take the kids.
I have many friends and family that comfort me and tell me that the kids will see it eventually. I hate knowing that it will take a decade for that to happen, but I just bide my time, trying my best to let them know I love them.
My best friend lost custody of her son about 10 years ago, like you, moved to a different state. She sent him cards, and letters, and always expressed her love and encouragement for whatever he was doing. It took her about 10 years, but she now has custody of him. He was brainwashed, too.
It is going to be tough for you, L., but that's what makes us strong women. You are fortunate to have the loving support of your soulmate. Enjoy your time, and pray, if you do, for the right thing to happen at the right time. I wish you well!
J.