Both Parents on Board

If you are the one in charge, take charge. Dont even tell anyone else what you are doing. Just pay attention and keep in "mode" until it's finished.

I am not sure why you're saying you regressed, because from what I see, there was really no progress made in the first place.

I don't think she's fully ready if she's still playing these games & it's this difficult. She's only 2 1/2 - try again in a month or two. Either wait & do it easily, or force it now & make it a battle that doesn't need to happen.

What Lillym said.
Also, when she is sitting on the potty, run water in the sink. I have always heard that running water helps with the release and with "embarrassed" bladders.

To me you sure can if Dad isn't the primary person dealing with it. Unfortunately my DH works alot and just wasn't home much to interfer,

My DD was trained by 2.5 for sure, day time.

when a kid is on the potty give them something to do, look at a book, blow bubbles, sing songs with mommy. They pee with out realizing it and then you make a big deal and dance around and they love it!!

Also push liquids give her as much as she will hold until she has to let it out.

Potty training in one day is a really neat concept, And the whole basis of it is that She isn't going to wake up one day and potty train instantaniously, She will have to practice it and you'll have to coach her and if you both are on board ( you and your kid) it is awesome. She didn't learn to walk over night either, she fell down sometimes just like holding it, chalk that up to falling down and try again.

now if someone else is caring for your DD most of the day, forget it, wait until she is 5. because you'll just get frustrated.

Having both parents on board is probably necessary. Do you stay at home with her or do you, husband and MIL take turns watching her while others work? If you are the primary caregiver then it falls mostly on you and although it would be ideal to have the others on board, I suppose it isn't as necessary....however you will have to know going into it that when your daughter is in the presence of the others you will still have to be the one to step up and step in to take her to the potty, etc. As long as you're okay with that, then maybe it's fine.

Also, I know everyone says this, but seriously don't rush it. Unless you are in major financial straits and just feel you can't afford diapers for a few more months, then do it, otherwise, let it go for a while and I think you'll find that it will be much easier when she's closer to three. Although lots of kids get potty trained before 3, 3 is the age when despite their emotional maturity, their physical maturity is ready for potty training.

What ever you do, do NOT put her on a potty chair in the middle of a restraunt! LOL For me, I went through what you did with her saying she had to go and then not going. So I just waited a couple weeks and then kept putting her on the potty one day and she would not go then the same evening we were grocery shopping and she announced to the entire store that she had to go potty. I thought she just wanted to check out the bathroom but, I went ahead and took her and sure enough she went #1 and 2!! She clapped for her self, I praised her, she told the checkers she went potty in their potty and she was potty trained ever since. Even at night. What I'm trying to say is that yes, it does help when everyone is on board but I think they just kind of do it themselves when they are ready no matter who's on board. Good Luck

I guess I didn't even think about starting potty training until my kids were almost 3. By then, they were definitely ready and there was no wondering if it was time or not. I then cleared my calendar for a week and focused solely on this.

Since that worked for me, I'd suggest waiting until she's really, really ready, then it will be easier on you. In the meantime, tell her all about your potty (I know, yuck) to get her ready.

All of a sudden say, "I have to go potty! I better go right now!" and bring her with you to watch what you do and explain it - this may illeviate her fears. This will also help lay the foundation for when she's ready. And don't let her flush for you! That's fun only those who go potty on the toilet get to have :)

It depends who is her main caretaker. If you share that responsibility, then it would work best if all caretakers were on board.

I trained my daughter by 26 months and her daycare teacher wasn't on board. Her dad left it up to me at home. She was in diapers at daycare and I slowly introduced the potty at home. I followed her lead mostly and encourage and showed my approval when she went. I didn't use any rewards other than "good job!" I used the bottomless method sometimes and kept the potty right in the room with her. When she had several dry days at home, I brought her to daycare in undies and informed the teacher she would be in undies from then on. She had one accident at nap time one time.

I don't agree with the "wait until they are three" approach. Maybe that works for some kids, but my daughter would have turned it into a power struggle by that age. She was very verbal from a young age, so I was able to talk with her about what was expected and why well before she turned 2.

If she's really ready, then great. If you are a SAHM you can work with her and then simply let your husband know what the routine is.

Honestly, it sounds like she's not ready, and that's ok. It's perfectly normal for kids to be closer to 3 (actually most kids are at least 3) before they potty train.

Personally, I would lean towards giving her some more time. She'll probably learn pretty quickly if she's really ready.

I agree with others that she does not sound fully ready. She is holding back to the point of constipation and I tend to agree that doing so is an indication she's not really ready. She's partly there -- knowing she needs to go and vocalizing that to you -- but the fact she then holds it when she's on the potty shows that she is not fully ready yet.

Did you think about why she might have cried and held her poop after both times she pooped in the potty? Some children see bowel movements into the potty or toilet as "losing part of their bodies" and get upset about it. (Seriously, some kids feel like this.) Especially if they are encouraged to flush the poop, they can get upset and feel like something of theirs went away. That is another sign of lack of readiness, if the child is so distressed by pooping and seeing it flushed away that the child is holding back poop afterward. Another possibility may be that it felt so very different to poop on the potty from using a diaper that she was upset by that. Either way -- she is not ready if she is crying and holding back after pooping.

Is there some vital reason she MUST train right now? Is she starting some program where she must be trained by a certain date? That is a recipe for pressure -- and failure. I'd wait at least a month and start again. You referred to it as "regressing" when you stopped but it's not, unless you see it as a battle you somehow lost and want to fight again. I would wait a short time and not talk to her about it at all, then start with letting her pick underwear and giving rewards for successful pottying, whatever works for her. but if she continues to show this fear of pooping, that needs more attention and maybe more time.

You're a family. The husband and wife should both be on board for such a basic behavior.

My wife was a SAHM and she did 90% of the potty training. We did treats for successful going potty. It worked well for us and still works well for grandkids. One of my potty-trained grandkids didn't want to go to the bathroom just before my son and DIL were leaving to go home. My DIL knew he would wet his pants on the way home (an hour away) after he fell asleep. He was whining and whining about not needing to go potty. I spoke up and said, "You know if you go potty at Grandpa's home you get a special treat." He smiled, went into the bathroom and then got a special treat.

Problem solved, just like Pavlov's dog.

Good luck to you and yours.

You can't. Wait another month and she might be ready. Is she in pullups/not diapers? See if she wants to buy some new pretty underwear and she can't wear them til she learns potty.