Can I Get This Lucky Again?

The first two, both girls, were ANGELS.

The third, my son... It was a rude awakening ;)

I'm taking this as someone's way of telling me I shouldn't have anymore kids.

I thought my first child was perfect until I had my second. Then I realized that they were easy and hard in different ways. My first was/is a great sleeper, eater and generally pretty easy-going . . . as long as I am with her. As a baby, I held her for 6 months straight! She is 23 months old and I still can't leave her with anyone besides my mom and her dad.

My second is not a great sleeper, but at seven months old she can entertain herself if you put her on the floor with some toys. She will let anyone hold her and smiles at everyone, but she is definitely more persistent about getting what she wants.

Just want to tell you that having two kids has brought me more joy than anything else in my life. It is amazing to watch the love between the two of them and how much they enjoy each other even at this very young age. You're gonna love it!

My 1st was awesome, 2nd was a stinker - but I love her! and my 3rd - she is great but has a HUGE temper on her. She will be 1 next week and she already throws herself down kicking and screaming. I love them all to pieces tho!

I was blessed with 2 easy children in a row, my luck ran out with #3 :) That didn't stop us from having a 4th, and he is pretty typical (in terms of being an "easy" or "hard" baby).
It has certainly made me realize how little my parenting had to do with the easy going nature of my first two, it is just their temperment. My 3rd is much more stubborn and strong-willed. I have to work harder at parenting him, but I do think my persistence is paying off, he is getting better at listening and compromising. And his time outs no longer turn into 30 minute screaming fits.
So I say you have a chance, but if your baby is not as easy don't blame yourself, they all have different personalities and pose new and different challenges to their parents. Love and embrace all that she is. Each child offers a chance to teach us so much about ourselves and about people in general. They give us new perspectives, more sympathy for the trials and tribulations of other parents, more wisdom to share, and more appreciation for what we have and have been through. Congrats on the new baby!

I have 4. #1 and #3 were fabulous dreams. Slept through the night by 5 weeks. Hit milestones early or at least on time. Rarely cried. #3 was on the edge of being a genius, potty trained easy, knew alphabet by 2, read by 4. So talented and personable and cute as could be. Both of them were HORRID - make me want to check into a mental institution kind of horrid teenagers.

#2 and #4 were AWFUL babies. Colliky, cry all the time, scream, didn't sleep all night for well over a year (#4 was over 3). So determined to have their own way that it was like WWIII over candy vs. dinner. #4 is only 10, and he is now easy-peesy. #2 was a tolerable teenager, certainly not a dream, but I didn't fantasize about running away.

Not saying that this is the norm - but it was my experience. I'll tell you - after my first was so good, I figured I wasthis super fantastic Mom, and then God said "Ha - I'll show you!" and gave me #2!

#2 is the child I am currently closest to. She and I are like best friends.

In our family there is a long standing joke that if hubby and I had child #2 first, we would only have 1 kid!

So, no, we weren't that 'lucky' again! :)

Well - my first was like your first (other than sleeping - but he was a mellow mellow mellow little man and just loved to hang) and my second was a great sleeper at first - transitioned to a terrible sleeper - and was just a very stubborn, strong willed child. Love her all the same but she was a rude awakening after my first - he was the kiddo that never threw a tantrum and I could put him in time out and he would stay there indefinitely. I always laugh cause my hubby and I will talk about how when he was just a little guy (2 or 3) we could put on a tv show, give him a bowl of dry cheerios, and he would sit in front of the tv as happy as could be until we got up - never really leaving that spot. My current little angel - omg - you can't turn your back on her for a millisecond - she's a wild child.
I hope you get another one like your first but my experience is if you have one "good" one - the second isn't usually quite so good. :-)

Good luck!

Yes you can. I have 3 kids. Number one was sleeping through the night fully by 4 months old, (about 7 - 8 hours) and 11 or 12 hours by 9 months. Number 2 about the same. My girls are 4 and 5 years old now. Both in great physical health, pretty, outgoing, fun to be around, artistic etc. No allergies, no special needs, no special issues. Yes they get moody or defiant here and there but overall VERY easy kids. My third child, a boy is 6 months old and he is even easier. Sleeping through the night since 2 months old, and I mean 11 or 12 hours a night. Wakes up happy every day. Naps GREAT, super super sweet and adorable baby. Took to breastfeeding right away like a champ. Still nursing great plus eating food now, loves everything from veggies to fruit to yogurt. So yes, you can have another easy child!! Hooray for you, congrats on your pregnancy!!!

I joke that God gave me my daughter first so I would have another baby. She was just like your daughter. She didn't even cry when she was born. My son came out screaming and right then I should have realized they were gonna be polar opposites! He had terrible reflux so his first year was not easy on him or me, but now he is a great kid!

Congrats and best of luck on your soon to be new addition!!!

The answer is probably not. Our firstborn daughter was a super easy baby, second born absolutely crazy until about 2 1/2. Now the laid back one is actually a little harder because you have to help her stay on track, the second one has a will and work ethic of steel. I've found that their personalities don't change a lot but because their lives change some of the qualities that were easier with a baby are harder now and vice versa. The best part is the differences, I thought when I had my second girl "Ok I've done this before, I'll know what's up". No way, each one is so unique and individual it's a whole new experience everytime.

My first daughter was like your first daughter. My second daughter...yeah, not so much. My second daughter is a lot more rambunctious, willful, etc. Also, my oldest is now 4 and she isn't as 'pleasant' as she used to be. She is still wonderful but she raised some more "stink" now than she used to. The baby.......she is just wild but a lot of fun.

My first one is super sensitive, with extra extra energy and kind of hard headed, one of his teachers said to me when I was pregnant, so good you are expecting a girl because your son is worth 10 kids.. well my girl has 10 times more... character? personality?, but she does hugs and kisses a lot!... so yes, you can get lucky TWICE or three times!

I have to tell you I love both of my kids personalities, they are a lot of fun and they keep me very busy and entertained... and give me and the people around them tons and tons of things to talk about!
Congratulations on your new baby!

Both of my boys were good. But the younger one is still easy at 17.
Research shows that most siblings are different from each other.

:) I had to wait until number 2.

My first was very calm and easy going, my second, well, lets just say she has personality! Good Luck!

My first was "normal". Not too needy nor had colic or any other out of the norm issues. But neither was he "perfect baby" who never cried either. Just normal.
The second was easier. Both slept thru the night (the 6 hour version of "thru the night") before 3 months. First nursed better than the second, but once I gave it up with the second and went with formula everything was hunky dory. She was more easily "entertained" than first child. Probably it is just because my son (who was 3) got to share in the "entertainment" duties, where with my son, it was all on me. lol

My second has been my easy going, happy baby but she's only a year old so we shall see!! My first, VERY fussy baby. Thank God he started sleeping through the night at 4 weeks or I think I would have lost my mind. The first year was hard with him, now he's 3 and back to being difficult again!

well baby #2 will be a WHOLE other ball park. I had that as child #1 and then baby #2 came along... who was in essence perfect as well but completely threw baby#1 for a loop and now I have monster from hell child #1. and now I am on baby# 3 and that threw baby#1 and baby #2 even more askew... its lets say... hectic now. LOL did that all make sense?

I had that same fear - big time! Turns out all 3 had very differant personalities, but they were all perfect. ALl good ntured, happy, easy going babies.

I don't know but I had a very un-easy first child (aside from sleeping issues) and I'm hoping for an easy one this time around!

I don't have an answer for you as I am in the same boat as you the only difference is I have a son & he just turned 5 and has been perfect from day one and still is, I had the perfect pregnancy, delievery & baby and boy let me tell you this child I am caring now has already been different. "I keep telling people I am waiting on the catch w/him" but now I am due in Feb w/another child and I'm wondering if this is the catch, perfect w/#1 and getting the COMPLETE opposite w/#2, SCARY THOUGHT :) LOL

She's only 2.... just wait ;-) My DD was a dream up until the upper 2's.

My first child was amazingly easy......my second one was not as easy but still very tolerable. I am pregnant with my third now and really crossing my fingers.

My first born never slept. It was horrible and I almost buckled from shear exhaustion. After about 6 months old all that went away and he was easy.

My second born slept well and was easy, until about 6 months of age when he developed a health issue that kept us busy and stressed out for a few years. He is fine now.

That's my story.
The moral........ there are no guarantees. I don't think there is a pattern either.

It is possible, but DO NOT count on it. I was in the same boat, our first was the easiest baby ever, everyone always told us how easy she was. Now that she is 8 that is out the door, but from birth to I would say 6 she was the easiest and best.

Now we had #2 April 2010 and they are polar opposites from day 1. Not an easy baby at all, and they have 2 totally different personalities. My oldest is shy and reserved, while the youngest is outgoing and very stubborn. We love them both, but they are total opposites.

With my first I hated it when the baby stage was over, with the youngest I was praying for it to be over.

I've had three delightful babies. They've all been sweet and easily calmed, loved to nurse and happy to go along with whatever's going on. My sister's three kids were all happy, easy babies too. She has one tremendously challenging child, but that's another story...

But yes, I think it's entirely possible (but not guaranteed!) that you will be blessed with another easygoing baby.

Rememeber you can't hold your second up to the same standards as your first...they are two completely different people

Our first was your first. Amazing. slept throught the night at 8 weeks (yes over 8yrs a night) potty trained with ease. Was in a twin bed by 14mo of age and at 6 is still a well behaved easy girl.

Our son....OOHH our son...I love him I do!! he didnt' sleep more then 2 hours straight until 9 mo of age. (he did have medical issues though which contributed to lack of sleep) potty training was no fun. He did transfer to bed at 15 mo easily....he is a pain in the tushy.

Our littlest sweeting. Well she is a lot like her brother except she sleeps much better. We are transitioning her to the big bed now at 17 mo and doin geat. She is a mix between her brother and sister!

Now with our birth control second son!!! we still had another...so it wasn't all that bad...OK it was really, really bad but still worth it.

I'm the first born. I was a very easy baby but very much the introvert. So I preferred to be with my mother over any one else. When my sister was born when I was 4 years old, I was still an easy going child. My sister was a very outgoing and happy baby. Very different from me. She is still very different from me. My sister is the reason why my mother didn't have any other children her words not mine.

Each child is different. Learn to embrace the temperment of your children. They will change some as they grow up and learn how to be inspiring and meaning adults.

Yes, its possible. The best advice I got when preggo was to NEVER rock the baby to sleep and put them in their own crib/bed. I did that and my dtr slept thru the night the first week she was home. She too rarely cried, was always happy and easy going and never gave me a problem. She's 12 now is still my easy kid. My son is 3 years younger and everyone said since I had an "angel" baby, meaning she was so easy, my second would be a "demon" child. Nope. Same thing. Super easy. He skipped the terrible two's but did make up for it when he was 5. But he's ADHD so he's very active and talks non-stop, more of a "typical" boy. But I wouldn't change a thing. So I think although some of it is the childs personality and temperment, most of it is the way you raise them. Congrats and good luck!

Well don't count your chickens before they hatch with the first one... she hasn't reached her Three's yet :) Plus a baby is going to come and rock her world so you may see some less-than-perfect behavior in your future. You may find yourself wondering what happened to your sweet perfect child.

#1 was an easy baby. Went through some growing pains later and seems pretty chill now at age 4. A sweetheart, and pretty easy to parent.
#2 was also an easy baby. We'll see how it goes through the 2's and 3's, she is definitely different from her sister!

They're always enetering new stages, you know? I work with Jr. High/High school so I see the challenges that parents have there as well with formerly "dream" children...

Here's to hoping for an easy baby again!