Hi! My son's girlfriend gave my daughter some clothes she outgrew. They are cute and lovely and when she
puts them on all is well. And then she moves... Everything, it seems, is made of some stretchy fabric and
her "cute" outfit now takes on a way too low cut appearance. She really is pretty good at pulling herself back
together but I'm beginning to realize she more often than not needs "adjusting" as the day progresses.
I really worry when she takes her two hour, three public bus trip to dancing.Any good advise how to keep
these things where they belong? She has asked me to buy her a white tank top . Thanks!!!
Thanks all! We're going to go tank top shopping, maybe a few in different colors and see how it goes. It is
definitely a modesty issue for her- and me. We can look at sports bras but the ones she has don't seem to
be doing it. And I forgot she had (they died) a couple of those fake cami things that clip on her bra, now if I
can find them again, I haven't a clue where I got them. I really think this is just a "wow, I got lots of new, cool
stuff that I could never afford" going on and she will tire of having to figure out how to wear them or yank
on them. They're not really things she would pick out for herself, she's more JCPenney than Abercrombie &Fitch.
I wear tank tops a lot under my tops. I find that most of my clothing winds up being to cleavage-y for office wear and am more comfortable with the extra coverage a tank provide underneath it all. I have many tanks in many colors and use them as accessories.
Pick her up a couple and see how they work.
I'd get her some tanks tops as she requested. My granddaughter has developed in the last few months and has taken to wearing them under everything that gaps or opens anywhere, she feels more comfortable. And sports bras help, they come in different colors and patterns and she doesn't seem to mind if those show a bit occasionally.
The only thing I can think of is to not wear them or make sure to wear a higher, and longer tank top underneath to cover more.
I'd get her some double sided tape, the kind specifically made to stick a piece of clothing to skin. You can get it at Bed Bath and Beyond, I think. Her idea of just wearing a tank top underneath it all is also good.
I'm with Lesley B. - I bought a bunch of cute tops thinking they'd be perfect for work (in an elementary school) but realized when I wore them that they shifted so much as I moved - it got embarrassing. So I have tons of tanks/camis in lots of colors and I wear them under almost everything. Problem solved!
Camisoles. You can go with plain white or a variety of colors to match the outfit. It seems like all the teenage girls layer with them these days for this reason.
I wear tank tops underneath nearly everything. I get the kind that are clingy so when I bend over or what have you, the tank top sticks and keeps my girls covered. Also the tanks are long enough I can tuck those into the bottoms so my rear is covered. I don't have anything else to add. Good luck.
It's great that your daughter is asking for tank tops; I'd encourage her along that route, so she's layering. It will be easier than asking her to wait until she's grown more (esp. if she really likes the clothes).
The other route would be to offer to take her shopping for similar items in a more suitable size, and hold onto the slightly-too-bigs for later.
Is it modesty or a sloppy appearance you are worried about? Modesty-- the tanks should do the trick. Sloppy-- might be good to offer to buy her something for the interim, until she fits the girlfriend's clothes.
If she has asked for a tank top, then I'd do so. I'd also sit down with her and talk about the clothes. I bet she already knows because she's wanting the top and adjusting all day. You can say, "I've noticed that you are pulling on the clothes a lot and that can't be fun to do all day. Is there something more we can do to make them comfortable and wearable for you? Are there some items that after trying out just aren't right for you?" She may feel differently now that she's had a chance to test drive them. You can also tell her "when you go on the bus, I prefer you wear x instead of y." We flat-out told SD that if she was taking the train and walking late at night, she was not to wear her poofy skirt and heels. She could make her fashion statement another time. She seemed to understand.
They do sell something I think called clothing tape that will stick to the skin, I know the girls where it with prom dresses as needed. But for everyday I'd get her some diff colored sports bras, I got myself some at Walmart just to layer under summer tank tops. It gives the look of having another layer. I also bought the cami secret (maybe Bed Bath and Beyond to wear if the cleavage is too low. comes in diff colors and attaches to a regular bra to give the look of wearing a cute camisole. (If low cut pants are the problem they also sell something that looks like the bottom of a tank top and will cover any bare middrift or too low pants.
You could sew a strip of less-stretchy material along the inside edge(like ribbon or bias tape) or add a drawstring or tie and that would keep it from being able to pull too far.
Safety-pin it to her bra (on the cups, not the straps) so that it doesn't slip.
They sell the "fake" camis in an "As seen on TV" ad ... try their website or Walgreens/Walmart etc.
