Last week we finally realized how much our 3 yr old daughter was playing with us about having her "me" (binki). So we did it, we "broke" it. She realized it and threw it away but now does not sleep enough. She maybe sleeps 8 hours a night after she cries and screams for hours, this leads to her in bed with us so we can sleep. Then for nap time she is out about 45 mins. But the problem is, she is just straight up nasty and we are SO frustrated about it. We really need to know how to alleviate this crying at night and the lose of the "broken" binki.
we got rid of the binki at around 18 months what we did was cut the tip off his binki and eventually he just didnt want it anymore .
well here is something we did with one of our kiddos- instead of completely breaking it and having it taken away we just clipped the very end and left it up to her- she still wanted it broken or not- every week or so I would clip just a little more off the nub until finally there was barely anyway for her to even keep it in her mouth.
The point of it is that it broke the addiction more slowly and by the time it was at its shortest point she was barely using it anyway and so then when it was "lost" she didn't care.
Maybe going slowly would be a better transition for your little one. I also wouldn't start any new habits- like the co-sleeping thing. Unless that is something you all want to do. Another note 3 yrs is hard anyway because most children start cycling out of naps around this time anyway so it can be very frustrating. Giid luck mama!
I'm not sure as parents why anyone needs to take away a blanket or a stuffed animal. Is it that you may just want control, of what? If she's only sleeping with this blanket and not carrying it around everywhere and isn't sucking her thumb, I personally see no harm. Let's ask ourselves do we have something that is a favorite they we keep wear or use that wouldn't up set us if it was gone? Look I have a 5 year old picked out a blanket at a thrift store what some made of winnie the pooh, we at the time were homeless (of course a child doesn't know that, all they see is I live with my mom and dad) he was about 15months old he still has it. He never carried it around everywhere he just had it for bed time. It was HIS is my point and it still is HIS. Children need something they can control and it was her blanket. She can't control staying on a bottle or breastfeeding, she can't control many other areas of her life, really is a blanket that much of an issue to sleep with??? ask yourself who's issue is it really??? Honestly what's the difference, do all of you really think this will lead her to drugs or robbing banks later in life if she keeps her blanket at bedtime?? I think you disrupted a pattern and by surpirse you are living what they teach in psch 101 you made a change in her life other areas are prone to change as well. You can't make someone sleep longer either or punish her for not sleeping. I have a 3 yr old sleeps 6-8hrs at night and sometimes takes a 30-45 min nap. Can't change this and won't try everyones body is different. Get use to the sleep pattern. On moving good luck it's always stressful don't make it worse then it has to be.***sorry for the misunderstanding growing up and my kids used the word "binki" for blanket****yes agreed a pacificer at age 3 is not good must go stick to your guns.again sorry for the misunderstanding.
My oldest also had the paci problem at 3...when it was time for it to go. But we did start him out by saying that one day the trash man was going to go take his paci and it would be gone forever and how nasty a paci was which prepared him for losing it. He threw it down one day and my husband picked it up and put it in his pocket and acted as if it was lost...my son seemed ok at first but my husband and I expect a huge fuss come nightfall....well it never came. And he didnt ask for it for atleast a month, when he did I told him that the trash man had come and taken it and it was gone. He also only sleeps a few hours a night in his bed before ending up in ours. And naps are about and hour....they use to be exactly 30 minutes when he was smaller. He's now 4 and barely remembers having one....so just hang in there and she'll get over it..just dont under any circumstances give her another paci and back track. Also know that her fits over the paci won't last forever...she'll eventally forget what she's crying over and get bored of crying herself to sleep.
My 23 month old still has his Bink. I was wanting it gone by 2 years so we will try in aug. We just had a 3 month old and moved with in the last 3 months so it just isn't the right time. You need to make sure that the house hold is calm when you do all of this. It is hard enough to get the bink away from them. It is such a security thing. So when you do it it should be a time when you can spend a little more time with her. Don't put her in your bed. At three she knows how to soothe herself to sleep and she knows how to get you to do what she wants. She will get used to this and eventually stop screeming at night. My 5 year old started crying at night when we took his away and he slowly got over the bink. Try to put a basket in the bed only. When she gets up she need to put the bink in the basket and can not have it back until she goes to bed. Then you can gradually take it away. Like no bink at nap time only at night and then take it at night too, but do this gradually. Hope this helps. Just don't give in. C.
I can relate to the selling the house part (STRESS LEVEL THROUGH THE ROOF) lol My best advice is just be persistant. I know it seems hard, but I learned they finally give up and get it. If you give it back to her she will figure if she continues to act that way she will get whatever she wants.(At least this is what worked with my youngest son, when it came to potty training. He would tell me he was going to potty his pants because he thought I would put a pamper back on him, at that point I showed him me throwing away the last 6 I had and told him, he would learn with big boy pants. It worked in about a day and a half and almost 3 years later no relapse. YEAH Good luck, and I feel for you in the move. We thought our house would be on the market for months (due to the slow market and we had it marked a bit high) but it sold in 9 days so now we are scrambling trying to find a house in Birmingham. YIKES Hit me up if you ever need to just vent. I know what its like.
Mine never had his pacifier for too long. We took it away when he was still an infant and he never cried for it. But in your situation, just to suggest, how about letting her choose a new "bedtime buddy" from the store hinting at stuffed toy or something, and then she can be a big girl and sleep with her new friend, tell her new "friend" about nighttime, get her acclimated to the idea of sleeping with buddy now, so she won't feel so terrified of going at it alone.
Hope this helps, even if it's not much.
Mine also gave up her binky at 3 years old. After many false starts at trying gradual ways to get rid of it, we went cold turkey and I was amazed that she barely cried about it at all. it sounds like your daughter's crying is more about getting her way into bed with you than with the binky. I'm a real stickler for bedtime routines. From the beginning (well, almost the beginning) we've been real strict that everyone sleeps in their own beds and that after a bedtime routine and everyone is tucked in, noone gets out of their rooms. It may take a while, and I know the middle of the night is NOT the time you really want to tackle this... but I think you need to establish a bedtime routine and stick to it and make it clear that she cannot come in your bed. I think it won't take long for her to realize you are serious if you stick to it... no exceptions... and then everyone will get a better night's sleep. Good luck.
