S.T.
One day at a time, sweetie.
*big hug because I've been there, too*
During my divorce, I went through counseling with the pastor I worked for. I can't tell you how different my life is now because of those sessions. I honestly thought I'd never be able to lift my head up again and that my heart would stay broken, angry and afraid. It did, actually, for a long time. It takes the heart a while to mend because the smallest thing can trigger a memory - good or bad - and I felt like I was being pushed into dealing with my emotions all the time because everything reminded me of the pain. Journaling helped me more than you'll ever know.
That was over 13 years ago. Why so specific a number? Because 13 years ago, I met the man of my dreams who is sitting across from me now. He's strong, reliable, dependable and has a heart the size of the universe when it comes to his family. He's a bit selfish in the community relations department because he's likes his privacy but that's ok with me.
I'm telling you that I don't remember much now of my first marriage. Oh, I'll never, ever forget some of the things but they don't feel as important now. My attitude has changed but more than that, tho. My whole synergy with myself has changed. I'm more confident. I carry myself differently. I don't jump to conclusions so much anymore and keep to myself so I can see who the "real" people are and protect myself from those who want to do my physche harm. It's all about me now and my focus on my new family. "new"? Yup, because every day is new for me now.
T., you are precious and you are a gift. Don't ever think that you aren't. God loves you or He wouldn't have spend His time making you as wonderful as you are right now. He's also given you 2 more gifts to value and accept - your son is one. The other are the lessons that you are learning right now to gain entry back into your "real" world - the one that's truly in your heart.
What's your greatest desire? The one that no one knows about and that has absolutely nothing to do with anyone but you and you alone. Not your son. Not your family. Not your husband. What's YOUR desire? Focus in on that and exceed your expectations of attaining that desire. Make sure that it takes you in a POSITIVE direction, tho. Desires are funny that way.
*another big ol' hug and my shoulder to lay your head on because I'll be a grandma one day and I need the practice. :)*