Emotions After Weaning

Hi L.,
I don't have any other advice, because the other moms said it. But I just wanted to let you know that you are certainly not alone with your feelings.

I described my son's weaning process as a bad break up...one day he wanted me, one day he didn't.

In the end it was his choice (which I was happy about) and I just had to remind myself that I did the best thing for him. As the other mom said, this is just another milestone, but its completely normal for you to feel this way.

They still want to cuddle. Its been a year since he weaned and he's still a huge cuddle bug.

Sending hugs,
B.

Awwww. My daughter weaned when she was 3 1/2 too. It was on Valentine's Day too! Bittersweet.

Totally normal. As mom's we will feel sad at every change in our kids lives, as they grow up. I am sad as my first goes off to middle school next year, and when I look at pictures of them as babies. I wish I could go back sometimes, but we can't. Just enjoy each stage of their lives.

I was very sad, even teary for a day or two. It's been a few months since my daughter weaned, and to be honest, I miss nursing her. It was the only time she'd really cuddle with me, and now that she's in the pinching/hitting stage, it would sure be nice for some closeness that didn't lead to pain!

I cried at the last bf session but it was time. I hear ya about being sad. I think it's normal. Give yourself some time to adjust to this new phase. It's o.k. to be sad.

It is probably a combination of both! I know when I stopped bf-ing I went through a major depression! I felt as though I gave up the one thing that only I could do for her! I felt like I was losing my baby girl! I felt like the world was going to crash down around her since I was no longer providing her those special things to keep her healthy like I was able to!

It took me about 2 weeks to realize the good things about stopping though. I was now no longer attached by the boob to her :) I was able to enjoy going out and not having to work around her schedule (I had a hard time pumping). I was able to actually enjoy a hot meal too! I also focused on the good things that I did provide her by bf-ing while I could.

So, know that you are normal in having these feelings! Also congratulate yourself for having breastfed as long as you did!

Blessings to you and yours!