Why are you being induced?
I'm not sure what you mean by "dh doesn't have a drivers license, so she can't even come to visit"... What does having a driver's license matter?
I agree with Megan M. regarding having your toddler at the birth. When I found out I was pregnant with #2, we immediately and whole-heartedly included our son (then 28mo) in every aspect of the pregnancy. We looked at pictures on the web every day of what the baby looked like, he went to all my appointments and was here when the midwives visited (I had 2 home births with an OB as back-up), and loved going to the ultrasounds with us. He was so excited when he found out it was a girl, and 2 years later, he STILL calls her by his in-utero nickname for her: Baby Sister.
We even did a sibling preparation class that prepared him for how labor might go, the sounds I might make, what he could do to help me through, what his sister would look like when she came out, etc. I feel all this was SUPER beneficial!
Because she was born at home, we were able to make ALL the decisions about who was there and when to bring him in. She was born at 7:03am, so it worked out better that he wasn't awake for most of the labor, but he was able to come in about 30 seconds after she was born. I'm SO GLAD I made this decision, and just because you're having a hospital birth doesn't mean your daughter can't be there with you.
I still affirm that we made the right decision based on our family, and I firmly believe that involving him as we did allowed him to adjust easily. He absolutely LOVES his little sister, and I hope it's partly because we included him and made him feel special and important.