M.B.
Hi M.,
I have one month old and a 16 month old. I use a Moby to carry my newborn while tending to my toddler. IMO, I don't think any infant carrier is really safe to hold an infant while carrying your toddler. I second gettin a baby for your daughter to mother. Also trying to involve your daughter as much as possible w. her new sister (she can fetch diapers, pacifiers and help "burp" her sister by patting her on the back). In the end, the truth is your oldest will get less attention and it's a good life lesson for them to learn that they do not always come first. As a mother, I certainly feel guilty about that sometimes, but I remind myself that although she has lost some of my attention, she has gained a sibling which more then makes up for it.