K.S.
Hey. My 3 are now ages 3, 2 and 1. Boy. boy. girl. A fifteen month split and a 13 mo split. When #2 was born, #1 went to daycare 1 day per week to give me a break; to give me some undivided time with #2; and to give #1 something to do. For us, it worked great. When #2 is asleep, put her down and play with #1. And try to involve #1 with taking care of #2, and make the play about what great things #1 can do, not the fact that you are both tending to #2's needs. And about getting out with 2 kiddos...you have to do it. Get out, go to the park, go to Target, just go do something to feel normal. For my 2, it was easiest to get out when #2 was sleeping - at 3 weeks they sleep off and one most times. That way you can play with #1 at the park while #2 naps in her carseat (if it's the type of carseat that you can carry with you). Hope that helps. Just remember, everything is a season and you will someday find a "normal you" again. Best wishes.