Helping Me with Friendship Problems in the Fifth Grade

Apologize and mean it. It is tough at this age- you may or may not be forgiven. If not, they weren't a real friend and you can work to find a new one.

Talk to your Mom, or your Dad, or your big Sis, or your guidance counselor at school? A trusted teacher or neighbor?

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It is normal to want to fit in with other girls or the ones that are considered the cool ones. But are they the oens who will back you up or will they let you fall. I would tell the friend you let down just what you said and tell her it doesn't mean i'm not your friend also. And go hang out with her go to the movies or roller skating. If she is your friends she will forgive you give her time.

Sometimes it's hard to know what to do. Can you tell your friend you are sorry for letting her down and see if you can still be friends?

I think the most important thing is to be a kind person - in all aspects of your life - and that means being considerate and thinking of others feelings. Did you think that your friend would be really hurt when you dumped her for the other girls?

I bet you could be friends with all of them if you tried. :-)

Good luck.

The girls you trying to fit in with is not for you. Keep your true friends. Are you won't have any friends at all.

Great first question! Welcome to MP!

Go and apologize. She may accept it or she may not, but it is the first step to making the repairs needed when you mess up. If she doesn't accept it, be kind because she may change her mind later when she sees that you are sincere.

You sound very mature for your age to recognize what you did. It's always best to make your own group and find others who want to join you. Then always look for ways to build others up and help others. That is the quickest way to build your self-esteem. People want to be around those who think of others first.

Being in the fifth grade is a very hard time. The fact that you feel bad and are asking for advice shows that you have a really good heart and that you are very mature for your age.
I would recommend apologizing to your friend and tell them that you are sorry that you caved to the pressure from these other people that are not very nice if they are pressuring you to be mean to your friend.
I have two daughters and one of them was abandoned by her friend in fifth grade because the girl was trying to fit in with popular girls and I can tell you it has had a lasting effect on my daughter. I also think it had a lasting effect on the girl that did it. I think she will probably always feel guilty for what she did. Believe me it is not worth it.
I have a younger daughter and she was always friends with everybody and girls tried to get her to just be friends with them or to have favorites and be a part of cliques and she would never do it. She was just good to everyone. In 8th grade she was elected class president and had so much fun and when she was a senior in high school she was voted Homecoming queen. So I think it pays in many ways to stand up to peer pressure and just be nice to everyone even if they are different and dorky or whatever. Watch the Happy movie documentary too it helps.

You need to really think about your misdeed and then your sincerity will show through to your old friend.