I am in a situation similar to your daughter, except that the "injured party" is my mother-in-law. As I read your post, I was actually surprised that my MIL is not the only one who is hurt by such actions. We (my husband, 3yo daughter, and I) lived with my mom throughout my pregnancy, tried moving up to where my in-laws live for a couple of months after birth, moved back in with my mom until daughter was ten months, then moved in with in-laws for thirteen months. My mom has never given me problems of this nature, but she is a (in)different sort of grandmother... However, as appreciative as we were that both parents were willing to provide a roof for us, living in someone else's house is excruciatingly difficult. My in-laws didn't really have fun sharing a household with us, either, so I was shocked and dismayed to see MIL crying, and crying still, a year after we left. Your daughter has a family of her own and rightly should be wanting a place of her own. She is also in a seemingly rocky relationship, wherein she would benefit tremendously from your unconditional support. I say this if only to give you another perspective - - while living with my MIL, my husband and I came very close to splitting. And I honestly believed that my MIL wanted that to happen, or for me to die, so that she could raise my child. Although I've tried to abandon that belief because it's unreasonable, your post has given it new meaning. It sounds like you are not happy with the reconciliation, for whatever reason, and that is difficult to understand. Unless he is repeatedly beating her into the hospital, every opportunity they can give that grandson for a two-parent household should be supported by all involved. The desire to not have divorce and custody disputes was the only thing that kept us together at one time -- I came from a very broken home, with two divorces and two decade-long custody disputes - and now I see that my siblings, who were at the heart of the battles, are completely messed up young adults. You must ask yourself what is best for your grandson, first, and for your daughter AND her husband. They are probably both pretty young, and if they can get past the first big wrinkles, they may be able to have a great marriage, which is ultimately the goal for the little one. Try to see the situation your daughter is in, and please try to not add any pressure to her life. It seems you have a good relationship with her, and that is fantastic - make it better by supporting her decisions - no matter how stupid they are, no matter how they affect you directly. If moving to his parents' vicinity is what it takes to keep them together and get through a rough time, then it is a sacrifice you're going to have to make. I am sorry that I cannot be more sympathetic to your plight. I remind myself often that my MIL loves my daughter more than anything, and that one day I'll probably look back and change my tune, but at the moment this kind of needy behavior just angers me and my husband. The only results it brings my MIL is longer times between visits and phone calls, becasue we just can't handle her stress in our already stress-filled lives. It seems that no matter how much effort I make, it is never enough, not until we move back in or next door - which won't happen because of the course our lives have taken - better course for us. My husband's relationship with his mother is strained as a result of the guilt trips and tears and conversations into the night about why we are trying to hurt her. No one is trying to hurt anyone. We are just trying to make our own lives, and we want to include all family members, but without the mess. One story that may help - last Christmas my daughter received a baby doll and named her after my mom. No real reason, other than my mom was standing there when we asked her, "What's her name?", and that's the name she said. A few days later at MIL's house, when MIL asked her dolly's name, I was quite upset to watch my two-year old daughter begin to tell her, then stumble, and then tell her MIL's name. A two-year old baby was aware of the pressure MIL puts on us, and succumbed. And sure enough, when my husband immediately corrected the baby and told his mother what she'd originally named her doll, MIL left the room in tears. Later she said she understood - that the two-year old baby attached a name arbitrarily to a doll, after a series of conversations about learning people's real names, instead of Mommy, Daddy, Grandpa, etc. (she really likes my mom's unique name, Claudia) - but the child still had to witness the outburst, and was - worst of all - anticipating it. I am sure it is difficult for you to get used to not having him around, and perhaps even more difficult to think of him being around the other grandparents. But don't let him know about your sadness. Just try to do visits, emails, phone calls - which will get frustratingly difficult as he reaches an age where he'll refuse - don't take it personally, it's frustrating for your daughter, too, and send him things in the mail. Even send him videos of yourself - there are a lot of things you can do in lieu of frequent visits in efforts to remain an important part of his life. Just try not to be a sour part of it, and if you are for his parents, you will be for him. Again, I'm sorry for your pain, but you must let go. For everyone's sake - including your own. Also, viewing the grandchild as something they "gave" you, or viewing this situation as losing a grandson, may be adding to your torment. Just a thought.