My 3 children are around the same ages. You can give them consequences if they contine and/or you can help them learn a different way to relate.
And, perhaps learn to see you, and how this is affecting you. My son, 14, went to live with my parents last year because I was unable to hold too much fighting. I actually began getting migranes!
What my self and all three of my children have done are a few things. One. In Sacramento is a workshop for kids called Harmony. This was a huge awakening for the children. They were given new tools. And they learned about accountability and much much more. There are other programs like this but this one is really good. I have a list of some and contact info.
Second, one on one time with each child. Meeting them where they are now, and really talking, helps establish a ground for reflection. We talk thru the experiences that are both working and not working as a family and make different agreements. When I talk with my children one on one like this and really check in through individual activities especially at this age... we begin estabilishing a new kind of relationship. One that will take us thru the teen years and into adulthood.
Blessings.
Alexis