Have you considered that your husband may be quite sincere in wanting more family time? That's it's not a control issue, but a matter of wanting a closer family? The question may not be, "Why doesn't he want me to do well?" but "Why is having a job so important to me?" As mothers, we make many sacrifices for the good of our families - our husbands as well as our children - and the fruits of those sacrifices won't be evident for decades perhaps. My father was a career Army man, and my parents decided when they got married that my mom would stay home with us kids while my dad would provide. She sacrificed a career, they both sacrificed a higher household income, but as kids, we knew our mother was THERE, and that mattered more than anything else. We wore hand-me-downs, we ate a lot of canned foods and pasta, and we didn't have many of the finer things of life, but we developed relationships of trust with our mother that saved us from a lot of heartache and trouble as we got older. This isn't to say you can't have your own interests - you MUST have them, to feed your soul and to show your children that you are not SOLELY a mother. Perhaps your husband recognizes that money does not make for happy memories, and he would rather have YOU WITH HIM than have finer things in the home or a fancy vacation. Isn't it nice to be married to a man who prefers being with you to having anything else?
You may need to reevaluate your priorities. Consider that he may feel just as strongly about his point of view as you do about yours, and remember that he isn't your enemy. People in families have to make different decisions than they would if they were independent adults - that's just how it works. If the money is not the only issue - if you like to work because you like to stay active and make a contribution to the world around you, perhaps you could consider volunteer work, which will fill important needs and also help you build closer ties to your community, as well as setting an example of service to your children.
I wish you well and success - and tell your husband that we appreciate the sacrifices he and you make for our safety!