Is It Polite To . . .

I received a first birthday invite for a little boy that wears 2T and I was glad that the size was in the invitation - especially as a fellow parent - I would never consider that rude.
I know what a hassle it is to get clothes the wrong size: For my little girl's baptism (when she was 3 mo, but wearing 6-9mo clothes), she got so many dresses that were too small for her! No gift receipts. I went to Target, Kohls, BabiesRUs, Walmart, etc to find the dresses and exchange for a larger size - It took weeks! I got them all in bigger sizes, except for one which I re-gifted. I did not want it to go to waste. I am sure some people consider that rude, but what is the point of a closet full of clothes your child cannot wear?

I say - put the size on there. If they are parents, they should be happy for the help :-)

....speaking from the 'receiving' end of things....I'm always grateful when the Moms put something on the invite that will help me shop for the birthday kid. I always ask anyway....why not make it easier on me and not have to make that phone call on what are they into and what sizes do they wear....ahahaa
If I don't get any info, and I didn't have time to make that phone call...the kids get a gift card typically from Toys R Us.

It's a kids birthday party....people know that they AREN'T going to show up with a gift for the little one!!! ahhaaha...I'd say make it easy on some and in the clever way that the first respondent mentioned....give info.

When my son was younger, like my daughter now, I use to beg family and friends to limit the gift giving ...if even bringing one at all because they would get so inundated with 'stuff'. So I never had a problem just telling the truth of the situation as it was.

I think the same goes for whatever situation you have. Nothing worse then someone spending good money only to know, at least from your end, that it's useless because it's the wrong size. So unless you can return and/or exchange on your part after the fact....just mention what your needs are so money isn't wasted on their part.

Good luck!

I would say something like "for those that would like to shop for the birthday boy: He currently wears 4T tops and bottoms, size 10 shoes, and likes Cars Movie characters, balls, and the color blue." Or "Top 10 things the Birthday boy wants you to know:" And list things like "My favorite food is Pizza" and "25 is OLD!" (silly stuff you can ask him to answer) as well as "I wear a 4T" and "My favorite toy is..." (The things that help narrow the shopping list.) List the #1 most important thing he "want you to know" as "That I want you to be at my party!"

If you say it in a "for those that want to know" way you are okay. If you say it in a "So you don't get the wrong thing" way, it will come accrossed rude and "present pushy".

I will often "talk" to family about "how big he is now" when they RSVP or when I call to double-check if I haven't received an RSVP. Something like "Can you believe he's TWO already? And he's SOOO tall! Did you know he is already wearing a 4T!"

BTW- my boy was about the same. Pants, he is in a 5 (not 5T- they don't fit!) and shirts are XS-S depending on the cut (He needs more length than body width)... and he is not quite 3 1/2. He has been "greater than 100%" on the growth charts for 2 years now. His estimated adult height is 6'6", and I'm only 5'7", his Dad is 6'0". It is worst when he ACTS 3, but people think he is 5 or 6, so they give us that "Gaah! Some parents!" look. (And I bet you already know that look!) Good luck on the party!

On the invites you could put - "If purchasing clothes, his size is 4T." That way the people being invited won't feel obligated to buy him clothing if they have something else picked out.

I love it when parents include gift ideas/clothing sizes with the invite-takes out the guess work.