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I would not do that.

If someone asks you what size, go for it............. but I would find that type of invitation on the tacky side.

Yes, it is considered tacky. They are supposed to call you and ask what size she is wearing if they are getting her clothes. Sorry!

As pragmatic as it would be, it would, unfortunately, be tacky. Hopefully anyone who will give a clothing gift will think to ask the size when they RSVP to the party. If not, you can return the birthday and Easter clothes all together ;-). If any relatives are on FB, maybe you could just put a random post up this week like "goodness I can't believe how big she is getting - we're getting out the summer clothes and she's in 3T (or whatever size) already!).

Personally, I've received invites in the past with clothes sizes, but I found it kinda offensive. Sorry!
The reason you would get clothes for a kid is to help the parents because lets be honest, that's not what kids want.
What you could write in the ivitation is for them to contact you if they need gift ideas, but putting clothes size is basically asking for them to buy your daughter clothing.

I would call and talk to everyone, just like a normal call, catching up and seeing they got their invitation. I'd see if I could turn the conversation around to how much she's grown and how big she is...it is easy to manipulate the conversation if you think about it before.

For instance, the person you called says something like "I bet she has grown so much since I saw her last time" you respond "I know it. Would you believe she's in a size 4 top and size 3 pants/shorts now? Oh my goodness she is so big for her age!" then go on to talk about the wonderful things she is doing...the seed has been planted but not obviously.

Why do people not have the common sense to, oh, I don't know... ask the clothing size BEFORE buying the clothes?! I love & appreciate when people ask me for gift ideas or clothing sizes. I prefer that to having to return or donate something we can't or won't use.

But, yes, I do think it's tacky to include the sizes. In fact, I think unsolicited mentioning of gifts, in any context, is rude. Now, if they ask you for a list, that's way different. If it's close family, you could probably mention the size in passing, nonchalantly.

Who said she would be getting any clothes as a gift? So, no do not mention clothes size, that would be suggesting you want clothes! They could decide to buy only toys

I've not seen your other responses...but if i were to receive an invite to a birthday party with clothing sizes? I would be a tad bit put off - NOT OFFENDED but put off...

IN MY OPINION clothes are NOT a birthday present for a child...

If you live in the middle of nowhere - order her clothes on-line...but a birthday party is NOT a place where I would give clothing as a gift.

If you have to ask, then you already know the answer.

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It's tacky to put it in the invitation.

If people call and ask, then you can tell them.

I always put something about gifts on invitations. I don't think it's any more tacky than wedding registries or Christmas wish lists. Most families appreciate some guidance.

Example:
Lizzie's turning 9! Come to her party!
When: 3pm on Saturday
Where: our home
Activity: Dress to mess! We're painting! or
Dress to the nines! We're having a tea party!
Gift ideas: Lizzie loves horses, clothes (size 10), and pokemon cards
No real horses, please, we haven't the room!

Of course, if she doesn't want clothes, you could say that too.

I don't think it's tacky, but I don't recommend it. If someone contacts you asking for a gift suggestion, then I would mention it.

I also think it's a great idea to keep family members who may purchase clothing up to date on your daughter's sizes.

Ok, I honestly dont think it's necessarily tacky, I think it depends on the person, and who you're inviting. I mean, if it's close friends and family, then they would not be offended, they would know what you mean, like a just incase they would consider buying clothes thing. But, if it's a party that your daughter has invited random people you may not know, like friends from school whom you havnt met and may not have met their parents or something like that, then I say just think of a way to do it without being blunt, ya know? I'm sure there is a way to not make it seem like, oh I know you're gona buy her something so here are her sizes :) Which honestly, I wouldnt think that, I've never got an invite with sizes on it though, just my opinion. But, as I was saying, you could probably come up with a clever way of doing it..maybe you could write something like, Btw, if you are having trouble with a gift idea, she was saying she would really like some new clothes, so if you need any info on sizes or any other gift ideas feel free to call or txt lalala..ya know. So, you're being somewhat suggestive, but not in a rude, tacky way. You're simply letting people know what she wants, some people would love that I'd think. I'm always worrying about giving them something they dont want, I'm kind of a $$ giver for that reason. So, I say go for it, just do it in a clever way, we're women, we know how to be clever :) Good Luck!

I believe it is ok to add the size because whenever we buy for others it is very helpful to know sizes. It is easier for the person purchasing the products and you are correct it eleviates the hassle of returns. I say ok to including the sizes.

i dont think its tacky, i think its thoughtful

And btw, my daughter loves getting clothes for her bday! But people usually buy something too small, my kids are giants.

Yes, tacky. Don't do it, it will look too presumptive.

UPDATED: if this is only family, and you have a good relationship with them, then I say give them a call and say something like, 'oh, i just wanted to let you know if you happened to be thinking about clothes for dd's birthday, she's grown so much her size is now xxx, and i wouldn't like you to waste your time or money etc'. Family should be closer and a little more forgiving of this :)

is this a family party? If so, I wouldn't think it would be tacky to do so. But I think it would if it is a kids party. But if the people coming to the party live as far out as you do, maybe they would think it's a good idea too.

what about writing a little cute poem to incorporate her size. like Elie is growing so much, its amazing she is only 2 but is already a 3T etc. If I were getting an invite like that I would be really grateful to know her size. I think you should do it since you don't see family often anyways~

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I wouldn't be offended. I would be glad I wouldn't have to call and ask what size she is in. You also wouldn't have to answer the same question either. Just say Suzy is in a 2t and loves Dora...or something like that. I really don't think that's tacky I think it's helpful. If you don't see family often then I bet they don't know your daughter very well so they don't know what she is into or what size she is.

don't do it.
khairete
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Mabey write on the invitation Since many have asked, E wears a size XYZ Remember to include a shoe size since lots of toddler clothes have matching sandels or shoes. Due to her age, I'm guessing most guests will be close friends and family so, I think it would be helpful for them.

EXTREMELY tacky. :-) If someone calls and asks you what her size is, great. Never refer to gifts in an invitation. Guests are never, ever to be expected to bring a gift.