Does anyone not really care about Mother's Day? I guess I don't feel the need to be honored. I always feel loved and bonded to my daughter and having a day for her to acknowledge it feels, I don't know, creepy somehow. I have to go out of my way send flowers, send a card, etc to my mother with whom I'm super close. What is interesting to me is that it means a lot to her, at five, to celebrate it when I'm neither here nor there about it. Just curious if anyone else feels the same.
For those of you who don't have their mother, my heart goes out to you. I want to give you a huge hug. I have huge empathy for your loss. My family is very close and I make the effort for my mother and my daughter is amazingly sweet and wants to celebrate me. But celebrating doesn't fill me up - just an excuse to be with the ones I love.
Mother's Day was always a happy event for me growing up. We had a batch of birthdays before hand and always had a barbecue. The day left a void for me when I lost my mom but now I have a reason to look forward to it again. I don't expect much at all but it's the little things. Such is everyday as a mom :-)
I guess I feel like special days are nice because they give us permission to slow down for a moment to pay attention to something that doesn't always get the focus it deserves. I have never been the type to buy something for my mother on Mother's Day, but to just give a thoughtful card. The things my little boy has made for me on Mother's Day have been so special, and I don't think I would have them otherwise. Maybe for you, it can be more about your children feeling special because they are showing you they love you. It sounds like you must be a great mom!
The first Mother's Day was a passionate demand For disarmament and peace; it is not a made up Hallmark holiday. In 1914, President Woodrow Wilson declared the second Sunday in May as Mother's Day. It is traditional to send white carnations for Mother's Day. Countries around the world now celebrate mothers in similar ways. I care about the day and our family has always made a point to celebrate mothers ... Especially on this special day, but all year round as well. Further info available at the links below.
Happy Mother's Day to all!
http://www.mothersdaycentral.com/about-mothersday/history/
http://www.wagingpeace.org/articles/0000/1870_howe_mother...
throughout my childhood, my family celebrated each & every event...as a family, with extended friends & family included. It was a blessing, & taught all of us many wonderful interpersonal lifeskills.
by contrast, my husband's family didn't even celebrate birthdays. They were very low income & used that as an excuse not to do anything. When the kids started marrying off, that's when they began celebrating life events & holidays. It was enlightening when they realized how much better/happier life could be through gathering with loved ones. :)
I find it uplifting that both my family & my ILs enjoy events with their own families- after coming from very different childhoods. So, to answer your question, I love Mother's Day! For years now, we have spent the day as a "work day"....1st for my Gma....& now for my Mom.
As a family, we volunteer to do all of those pesky little chores that can get harder as you grow older. Some years we paint, some years we do heavy manual labor (spreading gravel in the driveway, for example).....& every single year, we plant flowers! The house/yard looks great at the end of the day....& the smile on my Mom's face is wonderful!
We all chip in & bring food/desserts for the day. My Gma joins us, as do my Aunt/Uncle. Sometimes we have "orphans" for the day - friends/family in need of a place to go. & sometimes the dogs are even there! The more, the merrier.....is our motto!
To embrace your daughter's appreciation of the day, what about sharing your day at a local nursing home....or finding a neighbor in need of some special time? It's always fun to give!
I don't care about it.
I know my child loves me.
My mom loves it so I like to give her things she likes: flowers, small box of candy, new socks, cozy blanket.
I think some people need the reminder (heh heh) and I think it's also a holiday made up by Hallmark & stores. ;)
I like mothers day, it makes me feel special :)
I haven't gotten anything for Mother's Day in years and years. It used to make me sad because my daughter would always end up at her dad's and her other mother's house. They would be doing something for her, she had 2 sons with her ex. My daughter was right between the wife's boys so they were very close in age. So it was always natural for them to do stuff together.
She never went out and bought her anything, nothing like that. It was just that they did do something for her on her birthday and mother's day.
I decided to let it go. We have not had the best relationship throughout her life so it's not as she and I are super close anyway.
The grand kids do get upset if hubby forgets something like that though. They think he should never forget.
I don't care about it at all! In fact, I usually use it as an excuse to have some "me time" and get something I've been wanting. I do lots of things with my children all the time, and I don't need a special day for it. My own mother is dead, so that's just a depressing thought. I always urge my husband to take the kids and go spend the day with HIS mother, who wants that!
I couldn't care less about Mother's Day but it always seemed to be really important to my mother. Who knows. I just use the day as some me time and ask dad to take care of the kiddos all day. That's mother's day enough for me!
We don't do Mother's or Father's day. (Or Valentine's for that matter.) I really don't like holidays that are hallmark created. I feel like we need to appreciate, acknowledge, and show thanks every day. I think some people use these days as big gestures, and forget about it the other days. I think it's really sad that some people only get that one day :(
For us, we just find these holidays really irritating. It's like we're celebrating, because people who wanted to make a load of money told us to. With that said, it's just personal. I think nothing of people who love and celebrate Mother's Day.
I don't really care. I'm so trained to be focused on my own mother that I forget it is a day for me now too. My mom's b-day is the 8th and often coincides with Mothers Day so we were always showering her with the attention around that time. Now my Husband's b-day is the 10th, later in the month my daughters... so Mother's Day is more like another thing to check off the list- "did I get the cards and gifts for MIL and mom? Did I get the b-day invites for daughter? Did I get a present for hubs?"
Worrying about how people are going to acknowledge me is last on the list. I don't really care!
My mother was never into Mothers' Day and neither was my grandmother. I, personally, could care less about it. My kids love me and I don't need a day set aside for them to tell me that.
YMMV
LBC
I could careless about it.
They always bring home gifts from school or make thier own gifts the night before... those I love getting! But I love getting those year around.
But for it to be an all day thing.. or doing some "special" nope that doesn't matter. I love my kids and I know my kids love me I don't need someone ( the "hallmark" specialist that push it) telling them to make sure they tell me how much they love me.
My mom use to love mothers day and always made a big deal out it with her mom. I always spend a portion of my day with my mom on mothers day and get her something from the heart.
I find Mother's Day to be more of a financial burden than anything else. Not that we can't afford it, we are blessed in the fact that we can, however when you add up the flowers and cards and gifts, it is just outrageous. My husband and I are at odds with his mother and sister right now and sending a card and flowers was not on my husbands list of priorities this year. As evil as my MIL thinks I am, I ordered her flowers, a card, and chocolates to be delivered the Friday before Mother's Day. Even that will be an issue since my husband will not be visiting this year. Not cause I don't want him to, but because he doesn't want to. But alas it will fall on my shoulders. His family does something with the entire family, aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents. So on this occasions that we do go, cards for most everyone. How expensive! They do birthdays the same way. They don't even do all birthdays for the month. They do everyone's birthday separately, another financial burden, as well time consuming. There are times they have plans every weekend of the month. Where is our alone time, our family time, our time to do the things that we love, like going to the park with the kids, or hiking? I think it's inconsiderate since they seem to think its mandatory. And those times that I have plans with my family, should they fall on the same day as one of their events, if we do not show, they call and text him obssesively. Rude! Sorry for the venting session, but this post just reminded me of all the demands of holidays and special occasions that my in-laws hold us to.
Wishing everyone an early Happy Mother's Day. May you all have a beautiful & relaxing day! ;0)
I could care less about my birthday, hubby feels the same about his. I'm really not big on any other holiday other than Christmas. However, I do like to do a minor celebration on Mother's Day. I don't want gifts or any real special attention. My gift is to have my car washed and cleaned both inside and out and for us to spend some quality family time.
