My Parents Fighting over My 2 Year Old.

Well, you know they both love your baby girl that is for sure :) I think alot of parents go through that with their grandbaby especially if that is your first. My mother-in-law would gripe at me the way I gave medicine or if the bottle didn't seem warm enough and even how she was dressed. Finally, I wrote a long letter, that was nice, but to the point about how I felt. If they fight over who gets to take her when, I would try to make it equal for both of them and give them the same exact days every week... I don't know if that will help you or not, but Good Luck!!!

Sounds like a lot of control issues going on. Every parent, I think, has a way of giving their advice...sometimes in a way that's hurtful. My mother does not watch my children anymore and I have had to outright tell her that I AM THE MOM, and I have my own ideas and opinions and ways to raise them and teach them. And I'm firm with that. The continuous fighting and control is filtering to your daughter and that's not good for her, imagine your frustration, then think that she's in the middle! In college I "babysat" in a couple's home just to sleep over while they worked nights. Since all I was doing was sleeping, I made about $15 a night, but to a college student!!! that was a "dream job". Why not try requesting something similar? Being strong and on your own will build your daughter's strength as well.

I've been in this situation, too. It's a very hard place to be. I finally had to move from my parents property (had a mobile home on their land)in order to get control back of my child. It's taken a while to get things as they should be but it has definately been worth it. Maybe you should explore childcare options that don't involve your parents and find a way to deliegate them to the role of grandparents instead of caregivers--it may not be easy but it will definately be worth it for all of you.

I think that if I was in your shoes I would find a daycare or a private babysitter. Because if you are allowing your parents to take part in raising her then they will give you their input. I know being a single parent is hard and money comes even hard but it will make life a little easier! If you need someone to help you out let me know!

I had the same problem with my mom . . . Tell them that if they don't start getting along with each other and you, then you won't have them watch her anymore.
be firm and tell them that you appreciate their addvice on how to raise your child but you are an adult and her parent so you are incharge of how to raise her. you will have to tell them repeatedly but eventually it will start to sink in.

A.,
Hello. Wanted to offer some advice about your babysitting issue. My sister watched my son from 6 weeks to age 3. I to had the same problems with her doing what she wanted when she wanted not listening to me at all! What made it worse is that she doesn't have child one! The way I see it you have 2 choices... hang in there and deal with them because you know they love her more than a stranger would, or find someone eles. I would stay she'll be in school before you know it and I know the piece of mind you have with family watching her.As long as shes safe and happy thats all that really matters! Good luck.........T.

A.,
From someone who has married into a divorced family and I also come from a divorced family, we have 8 parents to contend with since they are all remarried. You are the parent and you are the one that determines the rules and schedules of your daughter.

Please stand up and let your parents know, if they are going to behave in an immature way you are going to have to take care of your daughters best interest first. You need to let them know they do not need to "try" and communicate with each other when it comes to you daughter. If they are in fact divorced (separated) and when your daughter comes to stay with them individually they are going to have to respect and not question your parenting or each other. It would be like my husbands parents telling my parents what they should and shouldn't be able to do. When our son is with one set the other three just deal with it. They don't call each other and get into each others business.

Flat out, you can tell your parents; either they start respecting your parenting and stop dragging your daughter into the middle of their own agendas and opinions or they can just be taken out of the equation until they can handle themselves in a way that is best for your daughter. Tell them they had their opportunity to raise you and now it's your turn to raise your daughter, not them. Tell them if they break the rules just once, that's it and I would follow through just to teach them a lesson.

Well unfortunately they might not change. My mom has been telling me how to raise my daughter since before she was born, and goes through better stages where she keeps quiet, and then she will sigh and tell I would do it different, and it is really annoying. The thing that has worked, has been to sit down and tell her that we appreciate her opinion when asked, but that if we don't ask we don't need to hear it. The it is very frustrating knowing that your mom doesn't agree with how you are raising your daughter, however she says that you do a good job because she is a great kid. We just take it day by day, luckily I don't live near my mom so we only see her every few months and generally just for a short weekend. I would sit them down and talk to them about their opinions, as well as their lack of communication. Many parents have had to communicate because of the children, and this is sorta the same in their situation. They need to know what is going on, and keep in touch for the sake of their granddaughter. I wish you the best.