S.T.
doesn't matter whether you believe in abstinence or wild promiscuity. kids need accurate information. i'm betting your 10 year old knows more than 'sex is kissing', at least if he's in public school.
there's not A Sex Talk from sensible parents. there's a long series of ongoing discussions that should have started years ago, beginning with the correct names for body parts.
if you've been silent on the subject for all this time, it'll probably be awkward to begin. i don't think handing a kid a book is an appropriate coping technique. books are great as backup to an ongoing discussion. but having set yourself up for awkwardness, you'll probably need the help of a good book. ask your librarian.
an informed child is not a sexually active child. studies show that children who have access to information about sex are more likely to abstain for longer.
arm your child with accurate information. you can do that while imparting your family's beliefs and values.
khairete
S.