Kudos to you for noticing and working to make a difference for yourself. That is step #1
As for me, I am SAHM, run errands all the time, and my part of our business is at home. I am active with volunteer groups through Daughter's cheer booster club.
I shower and do my hair daily. I know some say don't wash your hair everyday and I know I probably shouldn't BUT the shower and fresh body washes make me feel refreshed. I don't have a fancy hairstyle....I am a good % Native American and that is the hair I have, long, dark and straight as a board.
Also, I dress and do my makeup (not a too much, but enough to make me feel good) daily. I'm FAR from a Tammy Faye type makeup person.
About once a month or so, I will get a good spa mani/pedi.
Another thing that I love is date night. I get dressed like I am going on a date and even if we just go watch football somewhere or go to a fancy restaurant....I get in sexy mode.
Exercise ( I walk a LOT). As for your reading...add something like Cosmo...Great hints, styles and fun to read and has some good stories and hints for fun.
Remember to have fun, smile and be good to yourself.