" Potty Training" - Greenville,SC

Please listen to Donna and NOT Judy. You have to question anyone who prefers punishment and disapproval when dealing with developing little humans.

I would give it a rest for a couple of weeks- sometimes kids will change in a matter of days as far as development goes. Keep the potty chair out and ask at 30 minute intervals if she wants to sit on the potty- you could offer rewards like stickers or skittles or something she likes to intice her.
My son was on the bottle for 17 Mos!!! My first son was drinking froma sippy at 9 mos- so this was hard for me- I just quit trying so hard for a week or two and kept giving a sippy during the day- and now 3 weeks later he doesn't take a bottle anymore.
Every child is different so don't get upset if she isn't up to speed with some others.
Another thing to try is taking her to the store and letting her pick out her own panties then wearing them around the house and no pants on over them- and asking at 30 minute intervals to sit on the potty- if she goes reward her- if not- no reward. do this consistant for about 3 days and you may see a big change. If not tho- don't stress about it.
Good Luck

Maybe I'm cruel but I would punish my kid if they went in the closet to do their business. I'm not going to let them think it is okay to do it in there. Now if they have an accident in their pull ups or pants, then I'm sympathetic but not when it's on my floor. Don't get me wrong... I'm not going to beat them so all you moms stop what you're thinking!!!! I put on a look of frustration and make it look like it's so bad to go on the floor and I would look at them and say... you clean it up. If they look at me and say they don't want to then I flat out tell them that they need to go to the the potty! When I'm done cleaning, I would sit down with them and my kids would come to me and say sorry and I would ask them if they would try to go to the potty and that I did love them as much as I did before the accident. Guilt them... yeah I did to a point but I'm not going to let my almost three year old in June do what she wants. At the beginning of our potty training, we had books that were only for the potty and we did sing songs and we would stay there until she went and then we would celebrate with praise and hugs and a treat or read something together. Thankfully, my kids didn't have that many accidents on the floor. I really don't think it's going to shame your daughter if she sees how much you dislike cleaning up her mess. Maybe she thinks it's okay because you don't get upset over it. Like it's normal to go in the closet or behind the couch. Sorry if I've upset you or any other mothers reading. Good Luck!

My daughter was my first child, after several miscarriages and coming from a family from my side and from her dad's side of the family who strongly believe that it is best for the kids to have a parent at home. Our mother's bought quit work to stay home and raise their families and looking around at cousins whose mothers opted to try to supplement the income,wound up in a lot more trouble than those of us who grew up with mother's at home.

Not a lecture on how you raise your child, please don't misunderstand. I fully understand the costs of things today and not everyone is in the position to stay at home with the kids, especially single parents.

My daughter did not want to admit it, but she was afraid she would fall down in the toilet and be flushed away. We bought a seat coverthat fitsover the regular toilet seat, but has a smaller opening so that she felt more secure and less afraid of falling in. Another scary thing for her was the automatically flushing toilets. Maybe your daughter has some of the same issues.

Hope this helps. My stubborn daughter would absolutely refuse to go to the potty until she was almost 4 and I finally started tossing her Princess panties in the trash can when she had an accident in them. Told her it was not need for me to buy nice big girl panties if she was only going to treat them as diapers. She only had one more accident after that. Good Luck, A.

My first child did that too. I think it is funny now. I have noticed with my three kids, that sitting them on the little kids potty doesn't work. I put them on the big boy or big girl potty with the little seat. There, they can not get off as easily. I would also play with them and tell them why going on the toilet is the best thing. I even made up a song to sing while walking to the potty. Praise her for sitting on the potty like a big girl and when she goes, praise God! LOL She knows she is doing wrong when she pees or poops on the floor because she is hiding. You need to tell her that it is wrong and continually show her the right thing to do. Good Luck.

Hey L., That sounds really familiar - alot of moms have the same problem you are having with her just wanting to "play" on the potty. I would suggest letting her sit on the real potty. If you are afraid she will fall in - you can buy a potty seat that fits right on top of your toilet seat at Baby's R us or maybe even Walmart - (about $10-12) My daughter is 2 1/2 and she would not use it on the little potty. She thought it was only to pretend or read on. When I got the potty seat for her she was estatic that she could sit up there like a big girl. She loves using it. However I am still having a little bit of a hard time getting her to do #2 in the big potty. She now likes to sit on her little potty to do #2. Also...make sure you are putting her in big girl panties. Pull ups dont work except for overnight protection. They dont teach your kids what it is like to get wet when they pee on themselves. They have to experience the "wet" feeling. I bought about 20 pairs of big girl panties (some of which were just plain and tho others were characters she liked (let her pick them out b/c its more special that way). Keep the character ones for only if she can go all day without having an accident and that will be her special reward. She will love it. If your daycare provider/ caregiver doesn't wnat to do the panties thing(most will not mind) - you will have a better chance of getting her on schedule if you can take a few days off work to get her on track. I use vacations to potty train both of my kids. You have to stick with it though. Or you could set a timer and take her about every 30-45 min to get her trained. Hope some of this helps. Good luck and don't give up- it will get easier and easier the more and more she goes.

K. J. - Loving/married Mom of 2 (4 and 2 1/2) and in home daycare provider.

I use the Love and Logic way to parent and I received this in my email the other day...Hope this helps! But before you read it, what I did with my boys at 2 1/2 years old was buy a bunch of $1 toys (hot wheels for my boys) and each and every time they went potty, they got to select a toy. My pediatrician did that with hers, so I tried it out.

Potty Training Doesn't Have to Be a Pain!

Potty training doesn't have to be a frustrating experience for either you or your child. Listed below are some quick guidelines:

Little children copy what they see their parents doing. That’s why it's so important to let your tots see you using the potty…and having a good time doing so. (While this may be a bit embarrassing for some, the results are well worth the discomfort.)

Offer lots of choices. For example, "Do you want to use the upstairs potty or downstairs potty?" "Do you want to bring your favorite toy or leave it in your room?" The more small choices we give, the less resistant our kids will be.

Remain calm and empathetic when accidents happen. Punishment never works when it comes to potty training.

Allow your child to train at their own pace. Some kids are ready before they are two years old; others aren't ready until they are around four. When we try to force the issue before our children are ready, frustration is all we will achieve.

Man, that's frustrating! At almost three, when she "gets it" she'll probably get it fast! Don't know all of the things you've tried but I think I'd explain that peepee and poopoo (or whatever you call them) are yucky and they belong in the potty so we can flush them. Maybe even dab up what she does on the floor with TP and put it in the potty as a demonstration. Use the potty in front of her and CHEER! and celebrate when you are done and can see what you've put in the potty! Show her what's in the potty too and just act really, really happy that you went potty IN THE POTTY!!! Then flush (or have her do it) and wave and say, "Bye, bye pee! Bye, bye poop!", wash your hands, and get a treat for yourself. She doesn't get one. Only big girls who go in the potty get one. Maybe she should try going in the potty so she can get a treat. Hmmm... not this time? Well, maybe next time! (positive attitude) Over and over again, hopefully she'll get it soon. There are also books and videos about going in the potty. Good investment!

Where do you keep her while you're at work? Whoever is watching her during the day should be working on this too...

Good luck!