Potty Training!!! - Mira Loma,CA

Yes my son will be 3 in March and it's the samething except he only poo's in his pull up. My oldest boy just 1 day got the hang of it and never had a problem at all.

I have a quite a few friends that have this problem!!!!
One ofthem simple dealt with it by asking her daughter just to tell her whne she needed to go and she would give her a pull up so she could go poop and then change him back to underwear... Eventually he did start to go in the potty butit took a while. In the mean time you will go thru less underwear and perhaps once this routine is established you'll be able to move on to teh next step.

H.

Hi B.! Unfortunately I don't have much advice to offer. But I wanted to lend moral support by telling you that this is common. It takes lots of kids longer to master pooping on the potty. Also, don't feel bad, my son will be three in April and he still won't tell us when he has to go potty. If we happen to catch him at the right time and sit him on the potty he will go, but that isn't exactly potty trained.
I also wanted to say congratulations on your expected arrival. I am pregnant too, due at the end of March and expecting a little boy. My sons will be about 3 years apart as well. :)

I had the same exact problem with my daughter. We were very insistive with her and eventually she rebelled and decided not to use the toilet at all and wet her pants if she didn't have a diaper! We decided not to push her let her go at her own pace. She went back to peeong on the toilet, but still pooping in a diaper. The day after her 3rd birthday she went into the bathroom and pooped all on her own. It was when she was ready and we stopped pushing. Your daughter may not be ready for that part yet. Don't stress, it'll happen. Don't let her go for days with out pooping though. My son does that and he now has to see a pediatric gastroenterologist for getting backed up and is on medication. The result you could get from pushing your daughter isn't woth going through that, trust me.

Hello B.!!
I would try a little game with her......I know this sounds kinda weird, but with kids, well you know. With my second daughter I would take her in the bathroom and sit there with her. We would squeeze fingers and grunt, just about everything I could think of to help her have that "pushing" sensation on her own. Once she figured out how to "make" her poop come out, we really didn't have too many problems.
Good Luck,
S.

I am having the exact same issue w/my daughter. She is 3 1/2. Basically she holds it in all day at daycare & may go when she gets home, but asks if she can be in her diaper/pull up. Then she goes off to do her thing. People say to just be patient & she'll figure it out eventually. I'm not sure why she can go potty on the toilet, but is afraid to poop in it. I wish I could be more helpful, but all I can say it is pretty norm for them to take longer on that part of potty training. I know it's frustrating...believe me. Especially when she knows that she has to go.
Take Care,
R.'

Hi B. :)

I trained my son using a "Potty Scotty" doll. Not sure if you've heard of it--but basically--you toilet train your child in 1 day by having them teach the doll to use the toilet. In teaching the doll, they teach themselves. It worked like a charm for my son, who was 2 year, 2 months, but he had problems with the pooping thing as well until one time he went in his pants and i backed him up to the toilet and "flipped" the poop in his undies into his toilet. He was shocked and said, "No!! Make messy!!" I thought--ah ha! So i took him around and showed him how dishes go in the cupboard, clothes in the closet, toys in the toy box and then explained that poopoo belongs in the toilet. You could see the little lightbulb go on in his head as he understood. I've had no problems with him since. :)
I'm not sure if that might be the problem with your daughter or not, but thought i'd let ya know anyway hehe
~M.

Yeah the #2 comes last sometimes a year later. my daughter took at least 9 months before the pooping in the poty was a good thing for her. lets just say I threw away alot of panties and got accustomed to buying them every 2 weeks on payday because she ran out so much.
Good luck

My daughter is the SAME way! We just "held out" and everytime she "pooped" in her pull up before bed, we'd take her right to the potty and tell her that "poopoo" belongs in the potty.....

Eventually she'll catch on. I've heard that it's kind of "scary" pooping in the potty, make sure she has something to rest her feet on, pushing is difficult if they aren't,.....well.....grounded....so to say. I know as soon as we gave her some leverage, she did wonderful! And of course.....overly obnoxious praise when she does actually poop in the potty.

thats the one thing little ones have control over.. my oldest was like that I finally took away the pull up.. then he would go in in his under wear.. It took a little time but he finally went in the potty.. but dont be discourged some children are scared of going poop in the toilet.. one thing that worked with one of my boys was having him rinse his underwear in the toilet.. he decided that wasn't fun and started going on the toilet. my youngest would have had to much fun with that so we just threw the poopy ones away. in only took a couple of weeks and he never went poop in his underwear again.

Hi B.,

I'm Y. and, I too, am in the process of potty training my 2 1/2 yr old boy and he seems to be responding best to a reward system. Your daughters preference will determine what the reward is but a sweet treat from a special basket seems to be the best. However, I find that he is more apt to tell me when he has to potty or poop when he has no training diaper or underwear---meaning that there is no safety net. my confindence in him to inform me when he has to go has gone way up because of it and I'm able to take him out for errands with no diaper what so ever. But i do always come prepared for accidents with a change of clothes and diaper in tote should anything happen. It hasn't happened yet though.

P.S. His treat of choice are 2 skittles

Best of Luck,
Y. in Citrus heights

My son would do the same thing. He would poop as soon as you put a pullup on him at bed time. So we put a potty in his room, and put a gate across his door and told him that when he was ready to go have breakfast he could go poop in the potty, otherwise he had to wait in his room until mommy and daddy were ready to go downstairs. Of course the first morning he pooped his pants so I went in changed him and then left. I told him that he had to wait till I was ready to go downstairs. The next morning he pooped in the potty first thing. And that is now our morning routine. Same with naptime. But this will only work if your daughter is very regular like my son. For Jadon it was a power thing he would wait until he was down for a nap and then go so we would have to go in there and change him. He still does that but at least now it is in the potty. :) I also put an absorbent mattress topper on his bad and let him sleep naked for a while and now he wakes up dry most mornings. Hope this helps. ~V.

B., I would recommend getting a book, perhaps from the library which talks about the physiological and emotional development that has to occur for potty training to succeed. Going poop comes later, somtimes much later, than going pee because it involves more complicated issues.

My grandson had a difficult time going poop because he was chronically constipated in spite of adding fiber and medicine to his diet and so he delayed using the toilet for quite awhile. I don't remember how long. We did take him to the toilet periodically so that he knew that was the plan. He'd pee, we'd praise him and sometimes ask him if he needed to poop too. If he tried we would praise him even if he wasn't successful. Eventually he did poop in the toilet and he is constipated less often.

It's also important to not make pooping in the toilet a big deal. Toddlers can resist doing it if they feel pressure to do it.

I like the idea of putting her in pull ups so that she will poop. But if she can tell you she needs to poop try putting her on the toilet first. Make it a game. I raced both of my grandchildren to the bathroom when I thought they needed to go.

It's good that she is pooping even if it is in her pull ups. If she doesn't she will become constipated and that is painful which will enforce not using the toilet.

Healthy children learn when they are ready. All we can do is provide the opportunity and treat it as no big deal. My grandchildren were the first babies with whom I was involved in potty training and I remember both their mother and I feeling anxious about whether or not we were doing the right thing. We decided to relax and it went more smoothly.

I hope this helps. M.

Hi B.. My husband and I also trained our daughter for over 6 months. She is now fully trained, but may sometimes try and hold her poop as well. I have found that if you are in tune to your child, you may be able to catch them when they have "the look". Also, to eliminate any constipation they may be experiencing, try giving 1/2 teaspoon of mineral oil on a daily basis. My daughter knows that she has to sit on the potty and try to poop while I give her her mineral oil and a couple M&M's as a treat for trying. She's doing great now, it just took consistency and attention. Good luck and I hope this may help some. Take care.
L.

I had the same problem with my daughter. I was pregnant with my son, and the last thing in the world my stubborn little angel wanted to do, was go poo on the potty. My technique, some may say was not quite right, but it worked for my friends also. We bribed our children. I started with Ice Cream and cookies. And when she went all the time on the potty, then she got to pick out a toy from the store. She was totally potty trained with in 2 weeks. And I got to enjoy 4 months of no diapers. I hope this will help.

Hi B., we went through this with my son (he's turning 4 soon). What we did was controversial. The only thing I could do was take away the pull ups and diapers (I gave him the cloth training underpants which he picked out). The next step was I gave him a small piece of candy (like the sugar-free jelly bellies or a stick of sugar-free gum) as a reward. I tried the stickers and other stuff, but he wanted something sweet so we used sugar-free candy (just one piece). He was also required a "special" step stool to use because he didn't like his feet dangling when he went poop. We did have to take the step stool everywhere for the first 6 months, but now he'll go in public (or at someone's house) without it. Good luck!

My daughter was terrible with poop! She actually held it in for three days and when I gave her a bath one night she felt so relaxed (I guess) that she pooped in the bathtub. I was disgusted but my 7 year old son thought it was hilarious! Here's what I did. I actually bribed my daughter. I bought a huge bag of M&Ms and told her she could have a few of them every time she pooped on the potty. It was hit and miss at first, but she caught on after a couple weeks. She would run in and do her thing and then tell me she got M&Ms now. Then she got real smart and would only do a couple of turds, get her M&Ms and then go again a little while later to get more... but it showed she was able to control her bowels! She got to be so proud of herself that she would tell complete strangers she pooped on the potty and got M&Ms!

Hope this helps.

Hi B.,
A few months ago I potty trained my son and tried everything from rewarding him with toys, stickers and a whole lot of praise. What seemed to work the best was for him to watch this DVD I borrowed from my local library. It's called, "Potty Power". It had my son singing along and remembering the kids in the DVD all the steps of learning how to use the potty. If you don't have it at your local library, try buying it online at Amazon.com. Also you may want to feed her more fruits and veggies to get her system going in the daytime. Hope this helps!

my first son did the same thing. I tried to fight him on it but he got very constipated. Finally, I told him he could poop in a diaper, but not pee. What we did is let him tell us that he had to poop by letting him give us a diaper. When he was finished, I changed him, and put his underwear back on. It didnt take long before he did both. good luck

I have the same problems. And now she wont go pee anymore. She will sit on the potty and then jump back up and say she is done. Good luck, let me know if anything works out for you!! Oh and I love the heavily tattooed part, I too am very tattooed , i guess i always pictured myself being an oddball on this site, I picture soccer moms or something. It is nice to know I am not alone!!

Hi B., I guess I should be a pro at this,but each one of my children were different. But I feel the best advice I can give to you is, after she eats put her on the pot, maybe give her 5-10mins after her meal. You should observe her for one full day to see how long after a meal she poops (using the pull up during observation may work best). Parenting is alot of trial & error. Good Luck!!

I had a similar experience with my daughter and realized that no matter how much we tried getting her to go, she wouldn't and that she would go when she was ready. I think each child is different and when they're ready, they'll go with no problem. My daughter stool held, too, and we even had to give her medicine to make sure she went regularly. However, what made my daughter finally go poop in the potty was when my son was born. She went to stay with my sister for a week and my sister told her that she had no pull-ups or diapers and that she had to go in the potty. It seemed to work because she did it and although she tried asking her for a pull-up when she came home, I told her when the last one was gone I wasn't going to buy any more, she didn't seem to be bothered by it and went in the potty after that. I think you have to be patient and although it'd be nice that there was a sure fire way to get our children potty trained that the only way they'll go is when they're ready. Good luck!

I have a son who turned 2 in September. I bribed him with m&ms. Your daughter may not respond to this but my son really loved the rewards. Also, I made a potty chart for him and everytime he went pee or poop he got to pick out a sticker to put on his chart. He felt like such a big boy. He still wets at bedtime but has been doing great overall! I wish you good luck!