Potty Training, Next Stage...

Updated on November 07, 2010
K.B. asks from Jasper, IN
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HI moms,

I asked a question on this last week - thanks so much for everyone's help!! My little boy, 27 months, is just great at going peepee in the toilet, but poo poo is another matter. Now he's back to going once a day.. but usually it's in his underwear. He will look at me, and get kind of upset, cause he knows he's going in his undies, and not the potty.... but it always seems he understands he's going 'too late' ... and so I rush him to the potty, but yes, it's too late ... it's in his underwear. Last evening we went back and forth to the potty about eight times, he keeps telling me he has to go poopoo but then we sit on the potty and he doesn't go. Hmmm. So I ran a warm bath for him, and he started to go in the bath.. and then I swooped him onto the potty so he finished it on there. Is there any way I can help him feel more comfortable to go poopoo on the potty?? Thanks so so much for any help. K.

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D.D.

answers from Denver on

SH is right. Your boy is simply not ready. You might try putting him in training pants if you used cloth diapers, or a pull-up disposable. It is unlikely that he'll go backward on the peeing, but he might feel less upset if he's not pooping in his underwear. Our boy did just fine in a diaper and using the potty to pee while figuring out about using the potty for poop. Also, my son had interest shortly after turning two, but then flat out stopped after about six weeks of using the potty. Back to diapers until he was almost three! Then pull-ups for about four more months. Good luck.

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E.E.

answers from Washington DC on

We had a similar problem with our son-- he was pee potty trained at 25 months but didn't poop on the poppy regularly until around 27. It was a "in his time thing" but more it was getting him to go once in the potty and figuring out the association. He actually went poop on the potty for the first time during a snowstorm last year, looked in the potty and said, "look, it's a snowman--no it's a poopman!!" it was so thrilling for his little boy mind to make "poopmen" in the potty that he never pooped in his underwear again. I know it sounds gross and might be TMI but it worked well for us. We did also use a mini-marshmallow as a reward for pooping in the potty. Try to find something about pooping on the potty that will be exciting for him (disgusting as it may be) and give him a bit of time to get used to the idea. Good luck! You're doing great and soon enough he'll get it.

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S.H.

answers from Honolulu on

He's not ready yet to poo in a toilet or potty chair.

Pooping... in a toilet/potty chair is ALWAYS the 'last' stage... of potty training.

Some kids even get major stress or anxiety about "having to" go in a toilet. Or, they even see it as a part of themselves and get scared.
Its okay.
My son was like that.

Don't force it or scold for it.

Our daughter, even if we did not force it, got BAD constipation... because a child then "withholds" their poop... causing pain and constipation... and we then had to take her to a Pediatric Gastroenterologist... who said that everyday, he see's toddlers like this and it does not have to be that way. That a child, will poo, when they are ready. If not, they can/will get bad constipation.... they then 'withhold' going at all or do NOT go at-all... and then it causes health problems internally and BAD internal pain and pain upon exit... and then they get an emotional hang-up about it... and then withhold the poo even more because it hurts... and it is then a vicious cycle.
It took my daughter, 3 MONTHS just to remedy her constipation. Going poop simply stressed her out and caused anxiety... even though we did not force her. Nor can a child, poop on-command. Neither can an adult.

He is young.... he will get it when he is ready.

It also has to to with the maturity of their BIOLOGICAL signals/brain signals/bowel signals... and then to coordinate all of that... to then at-will.... go to the potty to poo.

all the best,
Susan

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L.W.

answers from Cincinnati on

my sister in law gave a star for every poop on the potty adn then after the 5 th time he was rewarded with a new car(matchbox obviously) HOwever what seems to be working with my daughter is candy. She gets 3 M&Ms for every successfull time on the potty. It may be a pain but usually people get into a rythm and go around the same time every day....so keep reminding him of the reward for going on the potty
Good luck

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L.S.

answers from Las Vegas on

He will do it when he is ready not when u r ready-My daughter who will be 5 this month did it in a day when she wanted to-my son who will be 4 in Feb decided to go pee quickly overnight and them poo poo was another story, but one day he did it sand that was it. Mind u my daughter had one accident since age 3 and my son one as well all pee-so relax-they will do it when no pressure is applied and when they are ready. L.:) Pateience! Good things come to those who wait!

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