Same Problem

It could be that he just loves you so much. Or does he not mind other sitters just this particular one?

Does he go to daycare (or has he ever gone to daycare)? If he's never gone to daycare & has always had you home with him, then it's normal for him to be upset when you leave him with someone else. If you don't already, try spending some time with the 3 of you together, so he knows that you trust & have fun with this person.

I agree with the others find another sitter. I know it is hard but there is a reason for him doing that. My oldest son when I first had at an in home daycare he went fine the first day and second day. But the third day all hell broke loose. To this day I dont know what happened but I knew something wasn't right. I changed sitters and he was fine.

We used to trade sitting with a good friend and everytime she left her son with us he would throw up. And he was 5 or 6 then.... so it may have nothing to do with the sitter, because we were very nice to this boy and tried really hard to distract him, but he just got sick when his parents left him anywhere.

My daugher has social anxiety disorder and she screamed and cried and would leave marks on my arms when I'd drop her off at age 3 and 4... and there was nothing bad happening to her at the pre-school.

Your son is 3 so he can talk to you. Maybe you should ask his pediatrician.... they'd be more experienced at asking questions that aren't presumptive of wrong-doing on the sitter's part. You have to be careful when asking young kids questions.

Does he really have a choice? Sometimes its hard but we have to leave our Kids. And Most the time they do not like it. We have to work,etc. We are the adults so we are the boss and unless you suspect that this friend is hurting your son in any way then he'll be fine. We cannot let children make our decisions for us.

Try another sitter or two and see the outcome.

Not making accusations, as could be child hurt accidental, but some times there are reasons!'

God Bless

What is your son like when you pick him up? Is he still upset or does he seem withdrawn at all? Or is he contently playing with the babysitter? Can you ask him why he is so upset when you drop him off?

Also, have there been any changes in your household lately? A new job situation? A move? Anything stressful going on?

Kids are so sensitive and they pick up on things we don't as adults. He could be having major separation anxiety. But see if you can talk to him and if he seems really stressed out about the babysitter then maybe you should find another.

Hi R.,
I am an advocate for children and I work alot with kids who have been mistreated and abused. I am certainly not suggesting that this is the case with your babysitter, but it could be a symptom of something not being right there as well. I just wanted to throw that out there and I agree with the others who have suggested maybe finding another sitter to see if the same thing happens. God bless you and your family!

Definitely try a different sitter and see his reaction. Usually there is a reason behind this. I remember having a babysitter when I was young and she spanked us if we needed to use the restroom when it was nap time and we were afraid to tell our parents fearing we would get spanked again. I remember all kinds of weird behaviors of many babysitters, never fears that first come to mind as a parent but again, weird and not good! I would try another one for sure and see what he thinks.